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#38937
« Life is never missed. Life is not to be successful. That is not a goal. Living is your own end. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#38938
« I'm wary of hierarchies in suffering. Any torment is too much for the one who suffers it. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#38939
« I like this almost funny story: for a long time I looked for the ideal woman, I finally found her. Only problem: she too was looking for the ideal man! »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#38940
« Very quickly, I had the intuition that by fleeing disability, one isolates itself. He is there, we must welcome him as a fifth member, to deal with him. To do this, the knowledge of its weaknesses seems to me essential »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#38941
« I think assertiveness is vital. A friend suffered from a mild thumb disability. He always kept his hand in his pocket. I said, "Don't run away from disability. Look at me, to hide mine, I'd have to go out on the street wrapped in a garbage bag!" »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#38942
« "The sweetness of life in its purest simplicity reminds us to take advantage of it against all odds. Life was no longer a rival, but an ally. A demanding, severe, but ally all the same." »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#38943
« We are more than six billion human beings on this earth and the most important person in the world is me! I have never been strong in calculation but here, the error is still gross. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#38944
« Nothing is serious, since everything is serious. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Man's Job)


#38945
« In "A Bouleversé Life" (his diary), Etty Hillesum frees me from a temptation: "This morning, I gave myself half an hour of depression and anguish". If I look back on my childhood, I can see that the sad moments, the sorrows and the pain, I did not live them thoroughly. All I did was accept them on the surface. (...) Would painful memories, rejected, act like time bombs that sooner or later, if I don't defuse them, will to the mouth? »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#38946
« It is true that a moment of intense suffering allowed me to open my eyes and meet others. They were the ones who saved me. On the other side of Sartre, I would say "salvation is others". »
Alexandre Jollien (The Man's Job)


#38947
« There are smiles that hurt compliments that kill. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#38948
« To find beauty, joy, where they give themselves: in this body, in this being, in this life and not in an idealized life. It is in everyday life, in the banal that joy resides. Page 39 »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#38949
« I have long believed that the disabled- unhappy equation is an indisputable law. »
Alexandre Jollien


#38950
« Become who you are. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#38951
« A personality finds its quintessence precisely only in the virtuosity it deploys to overcome evil. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Man's Job)


#38952
« Everything you're looking for on the outside, find out inside! »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#38953
« The meeting is the place of passions, comparison, attraction and possession, fascination, fear and anger, shame and jealousy. But above all love, emulation, friendship and... joy. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#38954
« Taking up on my own the definition made by the Greek philosophers of wisdom, I have long believed that it is ataxia, that is, the absence of troubles, the tranquility of the soul. Today, I have understood that wisdom consists in living with one's passions without them making us slaves, trying to find an unconditional joy that does not allow itself to be altered by the little hassles of everyday life. This attitude allows us to move towards freedom. For it is impossible to eradicate passions, and I would even say that it is not desirable. By strivising ourselves to defeat them, we kill life. »
Alexandre Jollien


#38955
« [...] in front of me, Jerome, with a deep eye, who was watching me attentively. Once, he threw me, with his voice off, in a superhuman effort a "Aa bva?" The thought that Jerome, paralyzed at the bottom of his bed, was worried about my tiny worries still upsets me today. He had not lectured me on courage, on the need to think positive as advocated by uplifting literature, but with simple words: "Aa bva?" he had said everything. His support was total. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#38956
« You have to have chaos in yourself to give birth to a dancing star.... »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#38957
« (...), a friend of mine, very extravagant, compares the ball of life to a banquet and precise; "Just because the meal will end doesn't mean you have to pull your face out." »
Alexandre Jollien (Self-building: A use of philosophy)


#38958
« Simplicity is much more than self-acceptance. It is to be with oneself, with infinite benevolence. Page 109 »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#38959
« I am simply saying that every effort must be made to take advantage of even the most destructive situation. I insist on trials because they remain unavoidable. There is no point in talking, of epilogue for hours about suffering. We must find ways to eliminate it and, if we cannot, accept it, make sense of it. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#38960
« Volunteering is about helping others. We do not volunteer to "restore the coat of arms" but because we want the good of the other. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#38961
« Meeting is also daring to make missteps. There is no manual to go to the other, just a certain curiosity. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#38962
« With the same voracity as a dog, do we not seek what we have missed, at the cost of great pain? »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#38963
« It must be noted that the most difficult thing, at least in my opinion, is to listen to the other without judging him. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#38964
« In spirituality, I believe that there is no clear path, much less a manual. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#38965
« The eyes that stop at the surface and judge, prevent many miracles. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#38966
« A damning law hangs over our shoulders: the more goals we have during the day, the more we are consumed by stress. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#38967
« Fueling the desire to please is not far from slavery. »
Alexandre Jollien


#38968
« Laughing is not running away from reality. It is to plunge body and soul into full existence. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#38969
« Gandhi has this happy formula: "We must live simply for others to simply live" p 162 »
Alexandre Jollien


#38970
« Life has given me the most beautiful friend in the good I have had the chance to meet. This is my wife. What upset me was that she was there without judging, helpless but present. Sometimes when you listen to the friend who is in trouble, who does not get away with it, who flows, who cries, the immediate temptation, and it is an instinct of life, is to take action, to find solutions. And when there are no solutions? Well, the friend in good, when I try to represent him, it is wide open arms that welcome the other as he is and nurtures for him unconditional love. He unconditionally likes: "I love you without you needing to do anything". »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#38971
« You have to commit or at least consent, otherwise the fight so demanding would quickly turn short. The tragedy is here, too! In between, everything remains to be built. There is little choice. No model, no solution, no complete answer, no instructions are available. Everyone groped, wiping out failures, building on ruins. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Man's Job)


#38972
« ... The experience of yoghurt is the experience of acceptance. I can't open a yogurt like the others. I need my six-year-old son to do it. But it's crazy how the experience of suffering is sometimes close to that of joy and happiness. Too often, I tend to oppose joy and suffering. I was unable to open a yoghurt, but this moment was one of unnamed complicity with my son. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#38973
« The weak individual does not necessarily represent a burden to the other. Everyone freely has his weakness, free to him to use it wisely. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#38974
« Around me, complete silence. Ten Korean women in an impeccable posture, real statues with deep breathing and an impassive and soft face. Even a tsunami would not have moved these women who have been broken to a long practice by an inch! A hell of a job awaits me. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#38975
« Humility is above all true. But beware: to be true is not to empty your garbage cans. To be true is not to seek to be true. It's just not adding more. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#38976
« Joy, happiness, wisdom, finally, is a form of passive and joyful rebellion. Broadcast By the Night »
Alexandre Jollien


#38977
« As a preamble to his lectures, Paul Valéry liked to repeat: "I come to ignore before you." Excellent introduction to a reflection on suffering. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Man's Job)


#38978
« I want us to act and extend the offices of life as long as we can; and that death finds me planting my cabbages, but nonchalant from it, and even more from my imperfect garden. Montaigne Essays I. I chap XX »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#38979
« In this way, I forge myself through others. One practices a humor that I certainly like, this one enjoys a confidence that I value. The serenity of this one fascinates me. They all draw the ideal I aspire to. Augustine confirms: by inviting me to "become who I am", the other reveals my nature. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Man's Job)


#38980
« A conversion of my life was to stop asking myself: 'What does it take for me to be happy?' but: "How can I be happy in joy here and now?" »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#38981
« Learning to perform ordinary tasks with the greatest possible serenity, even when things go wrong, is a major step! »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#38982
« To love someone is to love them for what they are in their uniqueness. There is no need to compare it with canons of beauty but simply, and perhaps this is what the practice of Zen teaches me, to let reality be fully what it is without bringing it back to our ideals. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#38983
« I always remember that rebellious spirit to whom I addressed my usual greeting: "Be wise." One day, he said, "And you walk straight!" It gave me extreme pleasure. He felt to me and had not taken the tweezers taken by those who smile blissfully at me. . . . There are smiles that hurt, compliments that kill. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#38984
« Trust is combined with the present. Stop squinting for the next time! ... The question is not to gain confidence but to let go of the thirst for mastery and to accept a little to lose the pedals. I have immense faith in practice. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#38985
« I love Rousseau's distinction that can lay the foundations for a new spiritual exercise: "Self-love, which only looks at us, is happy when our true needs are met; but self-esteem, which compares, is never content and cannot be, because this feeling, by preferring us to others, also requires that others prefer us to them; which is impossible. This is how sweet and affectionate passions are born from self-love, and how hateful and irascible passions are born from self-esteem" JJ Rousseau, Emile. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#38986
« Books I swallowed, like a cameo feverishly looking for a shoot to calm down. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#38987
« Let's not judge! »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#38988
« As soon as I laid down my suitcases, I ran to my master. And while we were on our way for a long walk, I wanted to confide my troubles. His masterful words immediately set the tone for the journey: "Alexander, talking tires you out. Keep quiet. Only break it if it's vital." »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#38989
« When I fly, behind the thickest clouds, always shines a bright, bright sun. Would it be joy? Under the affliction, I sense that it reigns, full and complete at the bottom of the bottom. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#38990
« To love the other as it is is to free yourself from fantasies and desires. I like this almost funny story: for a long time, I searched for the ideal woman, I finally found it. Only problem: she too was looking for the ideal man! »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#38991
« Lightness provides the apprentice of the man's trade with a precious tool, a new force capable of blasting men. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Man's Job)


#38992
« Recognising that there is still a lack in me, I really open myself to the present. »
Alexandre Jollien (Self-building: A use of philosophy)


#38993
« Unconditional love is not absolute tolerance. It's total benevolence to what's here and now. It doesn't matter what the past is. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#38994
« The tests form more than the perfect demonstrations of eminent scientists or educators in their diagrams. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#38995
« Very quickly, I had the intuition that by fleeing disability, one isolates itself. He is there, we must welcome him as a fifth member, to deal with him. To do this, the knowledge of its weaknesses seems to me essential... (...) You have to deal with it. "We're in a fire," as Pascal would say. Too many people stop only at this dark, negative aspect of our situation, without seeing the openings. »
Alexandre Jollien


#38996
« Living with others without dressing up is an admirable force. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#38997
« What a chasm between what I would like, what I might be, and what I am! »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#38998
« I am increasingly convinced that if passions possess so much strength, it is precisely because I do not dare to capitulate. In anguish, I get restless. And as the one who falls into the water, instead of floating, gesticulates in vain, I wade through my affects. Floating or sinking are the detachment's responsibility. Go to the bottom of the torment to inhabit it and make sense of it... »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#38999
« I read in Angelus Silesius a sentence that speaks to me and touches me deeply. He writes: "Friend be patient. He who wants to stand before the Lord must first walk forty years among temptation." »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39000
« Learn how to make the fun last? Living to the full is also slowing down. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39001
« I'm beginning to understand that no doctor can cure me. and little by little, I healed from the idea of healing »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39002
« I'm afraid I'll pass for a fatalist, for a being finally resigned. However, I am convinced that it is by fully assuming reality that I fight suffering more actively. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39003
« SOCRATE You keep coming back to the notion of "standard" or "normality." Could you scrupulously define what "normal" means to me? »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39004
« Nothing is ever frozen, eternity is played in the moment. There's a time to laugh and a time to cry. If, when I laugh, I'm already afraid that it will stop and if, when I cry, I'm afraid it will last my whole life, in both cases I shoot myself in the foot. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39005
« Leaving the results, the goals, the expectations, in order to rest in the real without too much disguise, this is the exercise. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39006
« we tend more and more to exclude the different, the useless, the foreign, the other... Jerome couldn't do anything physically. After assessing its possibilities, it was readily described as unprofitable. yet he taught me, better than anyone else, the hard "man's job" »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39007
« Everything makes sense. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39008
« Ideals, values, prejudices, desires, fears increase my capital but, ultimately, it is life that has made me who I am. I think I built myself but I was made. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39009
« The difference disturbs, deconnceance of man in his concern for perfection .... »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39010
« When I see a child smiling, making a whole party, going from laughter to tears without fixing anywhere, I envy him. Even if sometimes I think of this innocence that it looks like an ant who would laugh while crossing a highway forgetful of the tire that will soon crush it. But this oversight is not necessarily a matter of denial or lies, it is perhaps the pinnacle of courage and confidence. »
Alexandre Jollien


#39011
« In short, try the Samadhi, the complete absorption into the activity itself, the forgetfulness of oneself. Basically, zazen is to forget zazen, to be pure presence. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39012
« "Normal" people project on the different individual all the anguish, fear, discomfort that results from dissimilarity. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39013
« Not so long ago, I was really in despair. I was scared. I called a friend and said, "I'm like a washing machine at the time of the spin." And for a good spin, you have to count a thousand and three hundred laps a minute, right? I asked him, "What am I supposed to do?" He said, "Nothing, don't do anything. Wait!" . I was extremely bad, I wanted it to get better, and we just had to wait for the wave to pass. I think the pinnacle of courage at that very moment was to go to bed, lie down and not move a toe. Don't want to change anything. Paradoxically, this is what helped me the most to change. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39014
« Definition of the educator The one who helps to give birth, who questions, the one who awakens the abilities buried by different obstacles. This approach requires absolute confidence in man, but also humility, humility that allows us to keep our distance, not to judge the other, to realize that the other will always remain an irreducible individual, who cannot be totally submissive, analyzed, understood. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39015
« Who is the most respectful: the controller who demands payment, or the one who, for pity's sake, renounces his duty? »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39016
« Everything shows me that man in his complexity remains a being of flesh, blood, desires, fantasies, joys, dreams, passions. He loves, hates, hates. He desires, revolts, discovers peace, screams his pain, cries, laughs, alarms himself.... So goes the human being. Hence its wealth and the difficulty of living. »
Alexandre Jollien (Self-building: A use of philosophy)


#39017
« The joy of existing ALEXANDRE It's vital! You have to deal with it. "We are on board," as Pascal would say. Too many people stop only at this dark, negative aspect of our situation, without seeing the openings. They see only the snail in the disabled person, or more generally in the different individual. I cannot explain this strange phenomenon. The events I am recounting have caused acute suffering. The omnipresence of loneliness, separation from our parents, indescribable pain: this was our daily lot. On Sunday, the day I left my parents and brother, my tears signalled my departure three hours in advance. And as the bus took us to the centre, I watched through the window every metre that kept me away from Mom. Despite this, or perhaps because of it, we rejoiced a lot, and for little ultimately. This contentment dominated our whole existence and took different forms: the joy of existing, the joy of knowing companions to face difficulties, of having parents who love us. Why forget such a "good mood" when I was now living in a place for normal people? At the Centre, the simple things of daily life, a smile, a good dessert, provided a feeling of happiness. The sweetness of life in its purest simplicity reminds us to take advantage of it against all odds. Life was not a rival, but an ally. A demanding, severe, but allied ally all the same. Of course, we were not aware of it at all, but we lived it day by day. Adrien exemplifies this trait of character. Suffering from mental retardation, he could neither read nor write, he was only able to stammer a few words. In his language, which I had assimilated over time "Mamaya" meant, for example, "I'm going to Mommy's house." For every thing, he had invented his own code. This may come as a surprise, but it was easy to understand, with the habit. SOCRATES Like a foreign language? ALEXANDRE Of course, the things he wanted to say remained very simple. His attention to the other struck. No characteristics of his entourage escaped him. He watched with admiration all those he saw. He felt joy in contemplating the beautiful things that others possessed. He thus proved his attachment. He did not have sufficient intellectual opportunities to express his feelings. By saying, in his language: "You, bo sweater", or "You, well coiffed", he was able to express simply his tenderness, his friendship, his joy of being with me. Yes, once again, it is vital. I was moved when Adrien cared about Jerome. Adrien showed such sustained attention for Jerome that it was almost another Adrien who helped Jerome. No longer the clumsy, heavy Adrien, but a subtle Adrien, knowing how to find the gesture to put Jerome back in bed. Especially since he doesn't fall! This image impresses me. Adrien instinctively found a finesse comparable to that of a tigress who masters his aggressiveness to feed his young. The other always seemed different to him, likely to amaze, to amaze. His interlocutor always became for him a person with whom he communicated and often communicated. Once again, the weakness, the inability to speak sought a path to surpass itself. Adrien re-established dialogue through mediation not of speech, but of his being, a source of joy. »
Alexandre Jollien


#39018
« Difficulty seasons, stimulates, it forces to find solutions. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39019
« Duty will never replace love. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39020
« I like that there is something that goes far beyond what we see. I love a God who transcends everything, including his transcendence, to join us in the banal, the everyday. Zen helps me to dezing the image of a God who judges, scrutinizes and condemns the slightest misstep. I pray to this God with all my heart and soul. Praying means living, getting up, loving, going to the toilet. Never forget that everything is at the same time vain, precarious, fragile, perfect and unheard of. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39021
« I think, on the contrary, that it is a wealth, but for this we must go beyond the mortifications of the beginning. My inability to achieve perfect autonomy shows me daily the greatness of man. At the heart of my weakness, I can therefore appreciate the gift of the presence of the other and in my turn, I try with my means to offer them my humble and fragile presence. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39022
« To love the other as it is is to free yourself from fantasies and desires. I like this almost funny story: for a long time, I looked for the ideal woman, I finally found her. Only problem: she too was looking for the ideal man! »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39023
« As we begin this diary, I am keen not to forget all the suffering beings around the world. Men and women learn that their days are numbered, children are starving, sick people are enduring a thousand and one torments, and millions of human beings are struggling in immense distress. To enter into a life "without why" is above all to dedicate yourself to others, to commit to one's neighbour, to try to bring a little joy and love to this ocean of suffering. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39024
« When one begins to consider life as a gift, when one says, "This is my place in the sun", one prepares for a lot of suffering. Because one thing is certain: at the end of life, we lose everything. Then you might as well give it everything. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39025
« I don't think we should shield ourselves against the eyes that break because it would close the door to the look that loves, that blossoms. I agree to remain vulnerable so as not to anesthetize my sensitivity. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Man's Job)


#39026
« The fear of losing, the fear of hurting, the fear of being repelled by the friend, or rather by the one on whom I depend, is indeed a dangerous poison. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39027
« I think assertiveness is vital. A friend suffered from a mild thumb disability. He always kept his hand in his pocket. I said to him, "We must not run away from disability. Look at me, to hide mine, I'd have to go out on the street wrapped in a garbage bag! Very quickly, I had the intuition that by fleeing disability, one isolates itself. He is there, we must welcome him as a fifth member, to deal with him. To do this, the knowledge of its weaknesses seems to me essential... »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39028
« The tests form more than the perfect demonstrations of eminent scientists or educators in their diagrams. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39029
« I think contempt is tonic as Balzac said. On the other hand, pity, by its blandness, anesthesia. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39030
« Happiness is not to add but to slash, clear, simplify. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39031
« Happiness, if it exists, thus diametrically opposes quiet, quiet, lukewarm comfort. It demands intense activity, an endless struggle; it is akin to a selfless fullness acquired in a constant struggle... »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39032
« I think that suffering, sadness have their place in us. They may last precisely because we do not dare to live them to the fullest. What strikes me when I watch the children is that when they cry, they cry and their sadness goes away. Perhaps there are childhood injuries that could not be lived to the full and that for that reason remain. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39033
« (...) abandonment is not resignation at all, but rather action in action. To be totally in who I am. Nothing else. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39034
« Georg Christoph Lichtenberg once said: "The American who first discovered Christopher Columbus made an unfortunate discovery." Mine was delicious. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Man's Job)


#39035
« A golden rule: prescribe simple orgies of joys, bacchanals of sober rest. Right now, five minutes of doing nothing, nothing. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39036
« Suffering opens your eyes, helps to see things that would not have been perceived otherwise. It is therefore useful only to knowledge, and, out of there, serves only to inflame existence. Cioran, From the disadvantage of being born, Gallimard, 1990. Quoted by Alexandre Jollien. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Man's Job)


#39037
« It takes years to learn to speak, and more to be silent! »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39038
« I like this idea: we belong to a universe, a cosmos. Often, I take it away, I fall back on myself, I reduce it. Naked, unprotected, I want to explore this vast world! And, once again, I see how vain it is to pretend to sit on the throne of God and bring everything back to oneself. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39039
« Because one thing is certain: at the end of life, we will lose everything. Then you might as well give it everything. We might as well consider the health of children, our own health, our friends, as huge gifts and not as a due. In short, gratitude is revisiting everything you receive with new freedom and enjoying it even more, without holding on, without clinging. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39040
« The danger is to absolutize one's practice, to believe that, outside of one's path, there is no salvation. »
Alexandre Jollien (Mischievous wisdom)


#39041
« Rûmî, the magnificent Persian poet who may have written: "The wound is the place where the light enters you." »
Alexandre Jollien (Mischievous wisdom)


#39042
« I have sometimes detected more wisdom in the words of some lost than in the mouths of the great masters. »
Alexandre Jollien (Mischievous wisdom)


#39043
« It takes a certain nerve to get away from the staggering logic of giving, the demands of the entourage and the multiple expectations of each to love freely. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39044
« As we begin this diary, I am keen not to forget all the suffering beings around the world. Men and women learn that their days are numbered, children are starving, sick people are enduring a thousand and one torments, and millions of human beings are struggling in immense distress. To enter into a life "without why" is above all to dedicate yourself to others, to commit to one's neighbour, to try to bring a little joy and love to this ocean of suffering. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39045
« For fear of losing the slightest crumb of existence, I run, I exhaust myself. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39046
« The fear of being authentic, the fear of injury cause a lot of harm. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39047
« The fundamental wound of my existence, however, lies in this lack of affection, and I cannot remain silent that distance stems from abuse when it is not natural, flexible. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39048
« There are smiles that hurt, compliments that kill. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39049
« To deny the body, far from rising, is to lower oneself. Deny the spiritual, same result! Aiming for harmony between these two dimensions, knowing how to manage it, lies precisely the difficult learning of the profession of man; we must always surpass ourselves, constantly go beyond ourselves, to be engendered, to perfect what is already achieved in oneself. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39050
« There is a growing tendency to exclude the different, the useless, the foreign, the other... »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39051
« A man held a precious stone for all wealth. scrupulously, he looked after his treasure. One day the unfortunate dropped the stone on the ground which altered the smoothing. He asked for the intervention of lapidaries who tried unsuccessfully to eliminate the scratch. The jewel was presented to a stranger: "Look, my stone is damaged forever" The craftsman took his instruments, examined the object, and then desssina on the imprint of the petals and leaves. The artist who takes advantage of reality made me think of your beloved Aristode who gives us a tool that the Greek calls kairos: opportunity, the auspicious occasion, the favorable moment. Aristode suggests that he is good in time. I find it an encouragement to do the right thing in the present, to dare the appropriate word, the gesture that, adjusting to reality, works for good. »
Alexandre Jollien (Self-building: A use of philosophy)


#39052
« The secrecy, taboos, prudery, shame that surround intimate wounds do not settle the case and delay the release. »
Alexandre Jollien (Mischievous wisdom)


#39053
« Laughter can become an instrument of freedom. Laughing is not fleeing reality is plunging body and soul into full existence »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39054
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Alexandre Jollien


#39055
« No renunciation leads to joy, it is joy that leads to renunciation. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39056
« In the evening, I wondered deep down: "Am I less free than the others? Will there always be someone who, beyond his fear, will remind me, in good faith, that I am disabled?" »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39057
« Foreword by Michel Onfray Alexandre Jollien (...) carries in him, with him, in the hollow of his grey matter, the trace of the breath of death which, day after day, in detail, manifests itself in a gait, an elocution and gestures that do not resemble those of others. Nor does his intelligence, moreover, resemble that of others: sharp, sharp, sharp, exercised, skilful, and for good reason, it raises the slightest sign under the stone and decodes the smallest breath of meaning where it is. Overflowing a body responding more slowly to the demands of the world, Alexandre Jollien deploys a clear, lucid and showy thought. This young fire thief with gourd limbs proposes a nietzscheism that, without looking like it, outperforms the wrongful readings (...) Far from the nietzscheism caricatured in the philosophy of brutality, immorality and inhumanity, Alexandre Jollien asserts a nietzscheism of sweetness, morality and humanity - virtues everywhere present in the German thinker. (...) Alexander Jollien transforms this weakness said by others into a force formulated by him, for him. Turning like a glove the gaze of the third party, hard often, sometimes contemptuous, negateur frequently, falsely forgetful or vainly compassionate, he takes a look at the real that forces the most arrogant to give up their morgue. (...) It affirms the inanity of Platonic dualism: there is no body (detestable) on one side and the (venerable) soul on the other, because the body is the soul - the soul is the body. (...) confession of a body, autobiography of all thought, confession of a flesh, self-writing with his blood. I think what I am (...) And what I am then provides material for what I think. (...) A kind of over-stoicism - if it were necessary to speak in Nietzschean terms (...) a huge, incredible adherence to life (...) the curse of an inflicted weakness becomes the chance of a force created (...) »
Alexandre Jollien (The Man's Job)


#39058
« When I look at my three children, they are abandonment, they are already totally rooted in life. When they are joyful, they are joyful; when they are sad, they are sad; when they play, they play. A Zen master, Yunmen, said, "When you sit down, be seated; When you're up, stand up. when you walk, walk. And above all, don't hesitate." »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39059
« ... (friend in the property) He unconditionally likes, "I love you without you needing to do anything." »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39060
« A Zen master once said that if we want to practice over time, persevere on the way, just start here and now. It's the opposite of the "I start tomorrow" mode. The game is played right now. »
Alexandre Jollien (Mischievous wisdom)


#39061
« The addiction between a thousand harmful effects curls us up on ourselves, cuts and destroys one by one the bridges that connect us to others. »
Alexandre Jollien (Mischievous wisdom)


#39062
« To escape from the cage of sad passions, to say goodbye to what leads us requires guts, audacity. You have to jump into the water, get off the beaten track, try new expedients. »
Alexandre Jollien (Mischievous wisdom)


#39063
« Meditating is practicing to say yes second after second »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39064
« The challenge lies in the dialogue between the interior and the others, the universal and the singular. »
Alexandre Jollien


#39065
« To find beauty, joy, where they give themselves: in the body, in this being, in this life and not in an idealized life. It is in everyday life, in the banal that joy resides. »
Alexandre Jollien


#39066
« Assuming its weakness to the end remains a constant struggle. Nothing is taken for granted forever. Often we are alone in this business and the gaze of others becomes a hindrance to this acceptance. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39067
« existence was difficult enough, why complicate it? »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39068
« To live is to suffer. All right! But if, in addition, we do everything to spoil the existence ... I suffer from a cruel inability to rejoice that prevents me from simply enjoying, here and now. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39069
« "I still see this body necessarily docile, elongated, while we finish his toilet, I see him sovereign in his vulnerability. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Man's Job)


#39070
« For a long time I looked for the ideal woman, I finally found her. only problem: she too was looking for the ideal man! »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39071
« Of course, we're all going to die. Of course, some pessimists, sooner or later, will be in the real world. All the more reason to spot what's going well and feed on it as much as possible. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39072
« Nietzsche is right: by frantically yearning for an impeccable order, by strivising to overcome passion and impulses, we kill life. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39073
« To meet the other is to go to another world. Get out of yourself, your bearings, your shells and your armor. Get out of the roles we're playing. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39074
« My reason is constantly fighting against my affectivity. I must admit, however, that sometimes I love my passionate quintes and that I submit to their slavery with pleasure. After all, don't they come to spice up an existence, to hide a void? »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39075
« Meeting the other is to rest a little of oneself. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39076
« Epicure invites an otherwise more daring use of pleasures. Above all, it befits the progressing to dare to open his arms to receive. The master hammers that if all pleasures are good, not all are to choose. Suffice to say that only those who are a bit s e l e c t know how to enjoy everyday life. The prescription of the sage is very sober: to learn good taste, to develop a happy sobriety ... »
Alexandre Jollien (Mischievous wisdom)


#39077
« What am I waiting for to dare a healthier existence? How can life be allowed to circulate now without forgetting that everyone is and remains, whatever the circumstances, a being of progress? »
Alexandre Jollien (Mischievous wisdom)


#39078
« Similarly, when I swallow a delicious steak, I can think of that cow to which life was taken on purpose for me. But there is better than saying thank you to the animal, it is simply to refrain from eating it. I'm a vegetarian. p 210 »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39079
« Every effort must be made to take advantage of even the most destructive situation. I insist on trials because they remain unavoidable. There is no point in talking, of epilogue for hours about suffering. We must find ways to eliminate it and, if we cannot, accept it, make sense of it. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39080
« (pp. 71-72) Sometimes I blame myself for being impatient. Perhaps the great patience begins there, was patient in the face of his impatience. (...) Patience is not an effort, a tension, but a laissez-être, an abandonment precisely. »
Alexandre Jollien


#39081
« Yet, by dint of hearing it questioned, the certainty that I was ultimately no more unhappy than another might fade away. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39082
« I have long feared like the plague the simple idea of whining. Today I find the audacity to try a new path much more subtle: "at the same time that the Complaint will only run out with the complaint. Curious as it may seem, poison is sometimes the antidote." Vaccinating against despair our grieving mind by allowing it to complain until thirstier, here is a therapeutic that is worth a visit. What if we started by going straight, looking in the face at everything that undermines us, gnaws at us and peacefully confronting the long procession of disappointments, disappointments and setbacks? Life invites us to hold nothing back, to vent all resentment. But it is still necessary to engage in it smoothly, without pouring our bile on the first comer. If getting bogged down in jeremiads is devastating, denying injuries, pretending nothing happened, it's going straight into the wall. Basically, the remedy is to clearly circumscribe what is jamming and disturbing us. »
Alexandre Jollien


#39083
« I live thanks to this grilled trout, this pickled cabbage, this lemonade and my wife's smile. Later, Junho will help me shave, then my good Korean teacher will call me on Skype claiming progress for only salary. To offer yourself cures of gratitude, to re-educate, to restart at any age. No, it is not to keep Mr Coué company to focus on the good. I pester in front of this filthy dish, but I forget to rejoice in this dish well prepared every day by my wife. No, it's not a bad thing to marvel! Getting closer to reality, opening your eyes, being there. Focus on everything that's going well. This is annoying, and it is not lacking, will soon remind us! To say thank you, deep down, is to feel that everything circulates, is shared, given and received. One more step and, on some days, I can even show some gratitude for the ordeal and the handicap. Master Eckhart helps me: "God gives everyone what is best for everyone and suits them. To cut someone's clothing, you have to do it to their own measure; a garment that would go to someone would not go to the other at all. Everyone receives as best they like. Thus, God gives to everyone what is best for him, what He, who knows, recognizes for the most suitable; (1) Dreadful conversion of the gaze demanded by the mystic. Everything that happens is the best for me, even that huge tile that falls on me. The chance is to do with his bad luck. If from my heart thank you comes out, even more from my mouth escapes good blood,, I'm sick of it. Everything is exercise, path of liberation.. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39084
« Don't set me up anywhere, because as soon as you pitch your tent, you suffer. We are afraid of losing what we have, what we think, and we flee the movement of life. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39085
« I think, on the contrary, that [feeling dependent on others] is] a wealth, but for this we must go beyond the mortifications of the beginning. My inability to achieve perfect autonomy shows me daily the greatness of man. At the heart of my weakness, I can therefore appreciate the gift of the presence of the other and in my turn, I try with my means to offer them my humble and fragile presence. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39086
« Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday and Friday followed one another at the same pace. Without ever looking alike, the days followed their course with astonishing regularity. Time inevitably led us in his walk without us ever opposing him a why. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39087
« According to Aristotle's writing, it is by practicing virtue that one acquires virtue.2 It is by doing small acts of trust that one becomes confident. I often thought, "When I have confidence, I will do acts of trust." The opposite is true. It is by giving life a little bit of confidence every day that confidence is gradually discovered. It is not a question of importing trust but of seeing that it is already in us. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39088
« To become light is to humbly accept fate after trying everything to eradicate one's shadow, to assert resistance where revolt and anger prevail, is to refuse that rage or hatred alienate freedom. To be light is therefore to use forceful joy against what is sour, against what isolates, to support the one who suffers so that he does not slam into his ill-being »
Alexandre Jollien (The Man's Job)


#39089
« Simplicity is much more than self-acceptance. It is to be with oneself, with infinite benevolence. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39090
« To deny the body, far from rising, is to lower oneself. Deny the spiritual, same result! Aiming for harmony between these two dimensions, knowing how to manage it, lies precisely the difficult learning of the profession of man. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39091
« I always remember that rebellious spirit to whom I gave my usual greeting, "Be wise." One day, he said, "And you walk straight!" It gave me extreme pleasure. He felt for myself, and had not taken the tweezers that those who smile blithely at me take when, at the checkout, I pay my packet of spaghetti with herbs. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39092
« Reification is about reducing the other to a level of things. It reduces the other to an attribute, sees in it only a quality or a defect, it petrifies it by blocking any evolution. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39093
« Many pains are induced by this intimate comedy that we never cease to play. We play a role in getting affection. We play a role in being loved. Hence the immense need to feel loved unconditionally. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39094
« What madness to pass on to the first comer the remote control that decides our mood and has the right of life and death on our entire balance! »
Alexandre Jollien (Mischievous wisdom)


#39095
« Nietzsche, in Human, too human, appeals to Epitete. The philosopher slave dispels the mountain of psychodramas: "One belongs to the populace as long as one always makes the blame fall on others; one is on the path to truth when one only makes oneself responsible; but the wise man does not consider anyone guilty, neither himself nor the others." »
Alexandre Jollien (Mischievous wisdom)


#39096
« You have to take care of the body for the soul to enjoy. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39097
« (p. 80) There is no sense in my existence. No sense that could be found later in saying, "My life has made sense." There is no need to research why I exist. Life is purely free. Instead, you have to ask how I can give the most of everything I am today. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39098
« A torrent flows naturally from the top of the mountain towards the plain. For the mind it's the same. Ideas flow, flow and they have to be allowed to do so. As soon as we freeze in anger, hatred there is suffering. The Tibetan Buddhist suggests looking at our thoughts as if they were our children whom we contemplate, that we watch peacefully. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39099
« Zen proposes to give us all at the moment, to exhaust all our energy to be reborn new, available again. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39100
« Trust may mean stopping clinging to peace, healing, happiness and simply moving forward step by step, without why. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39101
« Benevolence. the word "benevolence" comes from the Latin bene volens. Volunteering is first and foremost about wanting the good of others. we do not volunteer to "restore the coat of arms" but because we want the good of the other. and this is perhaps a challenge of love and friendship: to want the good of the other without imposing on him his own version of the good. The phrase of the Soutrâ du Diamant still applies here perfectly: "Good is not good, that is why I call it good." Because when you think you know what good is for the other, you often impose your prejudices on them and move away from what is really good for them. Above all, do not impose the good. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39102
« Personally, I would define passion as what, in me, is stronger than me. Although in a current but restrictive sense, it is first synonymous with hobby, and means enthusiasm, activity, a commitment that gives meaning to existence.... (p21) »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39103
« There is nothing left to lose if everything is already lost. Freed from obsessions, we can then make ourselves available to what happens. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39104
« The fear of losing, the fear of hurting, the fear of being repelled by the friend, or rather by the one on whom I depend, is indeed a dangerous poison. He uses the other, reduces it to the rank of means to fill a void, a way to fill my loneliness. One clings, crawls towards the other to escape oneself. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39105
« The problem of anxiety, of fear, is that I focus again on birds. I almost forget the main one. The sky. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39106
« It is that suffering (which reveals our limits) places the body at the heart of my quest, a noble companion that has not always appeared to me as such. It imposes itself in force: the seat of pain, the provider of pleasure, the foundation of being, the body constitutes a real conquest. To tame it, perhaps to inhabit it, is yet another task for the apprentice who embarks on the profession of man. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Man's Job)


#39107
« Unconsciously I perceived and understood that my presence was for many people associated with a failure, an accident. I embodied for them a kind of suffering that made them feel guilty. They were almost guilty of my disability. I was playing the role of a bad conscience. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39108
« As long as we squander our energy, which is weak on certain days, to want to remake the world, we miss the joy of the present moment and what is given. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39109
« Memory is the stomach of the spirit of St. Augustine »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39110
« I often wonder when I act with others, when I am with relatives or those less close: "Do I tend to the good or do I want to please the other?" »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39111
« Difficulty seasons, stimulates, it forces to find solutions. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39112
« THE FRAYEUR tells us: I see the crowd of men, like Damocles, adopting a thousand postures to accommodate the danger that awaits them. It is he who leads the philosopher to ask himself the radical question: how to lead his life under the sword? The fragility and precariousness of the condition of mortals throw them in my arms: one father fears the death of his child, another apprehends losing his job. This woman tries every morning to detect the traces of an evil, while the idea of missing her life eats away at this young man. I take innumerable forms: fear, fear, the little jitters that precede an ordeal, the pet, the fright, the terror, the anxiety, the fear, the phobia, the haunting, or to show me more modern: obsessive compulsive disorder, panic attacks, generalized anxiety, dread. Let's get it! There are only a few people who do not experience phobophobia, the fear of being afraid. So, try in vain to run away from me. And the more you try to keep me at bay, the more ground I gain. That's one of my strengths. »
Alexandre Jollien (Self-building: A use of philosophy)


#39113
« 'The weak individual does not necessarily represent a weight for the other. Everyone freely has his weakness, free to him to use it wisely." »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39114
« When another criticizes us, it is a gain more than a loss. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39115
« Too much to want to cabrioler in my mother's womb, I wrapped the umbilical cord around my neck and... you can see the damage for yourself. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39116
« Gratitude is not to deny the tragedy of existence. It is not a question of saying to someone who is in pain: "Look at all that is beautiful!" It would be almost insulting, it would make you feel bad. Gratitude is rather to feed on what is good, to savor what is given. Page 75 »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39117
« Small exercise proposed by a Buddhist monk: stop the inner comments and not make a mountain of everything. If an individual judged us as we judge ourselves all the time, we would have hated him soon. The first step towards acceptance is to identify what you do not accept and to see that it is not a problem. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39118
« All we think we know about reality are just labels that freeze it. It's about letting life go, dancing with it without immobility »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39119
« You build a personality and all your life you try to stick to what you have decided to be-Sartre-. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39120
« The little child is a master of humanity because he lives in the present. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39121
« Happiness comes from conquest when joy is perhaps simply, and it is not as simple as that, to open up to what is, to give daily. Joy would proceed more from the act of receiving than from the act of conquering. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39122
« Joy is the way of living this without sourness. The love of life may well be his other name. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39123
« In the "why do we live?", there is often "for others." In the end, we're not much. We're going to "click" in a few years, that's for sure. What will be left of us? Nothing or not much. Here's an invitation to enjoy free. There is no sense in existence. No sense that could be found in retrospect to say, "My life made sense." There is no need to look for why I exist. Life is purely free. Instead, we have to ask ourselves how I can give the most of everything I am today. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39124
« Faith in God, which never left me, found in the encounter with Buddhism a powerful impetus and I wanted to deepen the dialogue. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39125
« I have invariably thought of the Stoics for whom passion is precisely a misjudgment of value. it is he who triggers the fleeting impulse that takes the enthusiast and puts his will out of control. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39126
« I was told, for example, that there are two effects of normality. Normality can be a stimulus for the person who excludes himself from it. It arouses in it the desire to become ever better, to reduce more and more the gap that separates it from others. Normality can also create marginality, exclude.... »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39127
« Good victory must rejoice the vanquished, and have something divine that spares humiliation. F. Nietzsche, human, too human. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39128
« With Epicure, I suspected that happiness was not necessarily picked up in having it, but in being »
Alexandre Jollien (Self-building: A use of philosophy)


#39129
« The one who constantly possesses the desire to progress or the dream of becoming someone else deprives himself of the sweetness of the moment. »
Alexandre Jollien (Self-building: A use of philosophy)


#39130
« The tragedy of existence is a reminder of the need to celebrate the occasions of gloating and gloating. To offer joy where pity and sadness are imitated. Fighting for life, not macerating in contempt. Rely on the thousand little joys of our condition. The profession of man, a serious subject, sometimes austere, therefore requires a constant commitment, a lightness that wants to take a fresh look at the world. Look stripped of all artifice, of tioute rules, except perhaps the rule of Chamfort: "the most lost of all days is the one where we did not laugh!" »
Alexandre Jollien (The Man's Job)


#39131
« Simplicity is much more than self-acceptance. It is to be with oneself, with infinite benevolence. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39132
« I was going around in circles. My inner ghosts occupied my time and mind, and I faced these tyrants as if on a battlefield. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39133
« Philosophers help a lot, not by their answers, but rather by their method, by their field of investigation,It is difficult for me to explain otherwise their precious help! Over the course of my studies, philosophy is for me a kind of magnifying glass to observe reality, to read in daily events to find meaning in experiences. Very early on I felt the need to understand the cruelty that sometimes took on the relationships between individuals the precariousness of my condition as a man »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39134
« Counting was also for me a kind of "big thing" unattainable. I imagined that in order to reach him, I had to become a monk, almost a stakhanovist of the detachment, and send to graze all that was material. Until the day I realized that the "big thing" I had to break away from was me. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39135
« Hegel put a lot of emphasis on the gaze of others. He sees the encounter of the other as a way to rise, to grow, to become fully human... »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39136
« If you want to get by in a hostile environment be cunning. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39137
« I cannot remain silent that distance results from abuse when it is not natural, supple. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39138
« _Je remember that girl at the pool. _Elle had lived in Africa in a country at war. Soldiers had invaded his village and killed his father and mother with machetes. Then they abandoned her in the middle of a pile of bloody corpses, arms and legs cut off.... Can we imagine a more horrific situation? _Pourtant watching her float with her eternal smile, she embodied in my eyes the most total joy, a unique joy! _Merveilleuse adaptability of human beings! _Darwin always..._Beaucoup better! The tests form more than the demonstrations of scientists or educators! _Ne t you condone suffering? _Je simply say that every effort must be made to take advantage of even the most destructive situation. I insist on trials, because they are inevitable. _Rien is not used to talk or to epilogue hours about suffering... We have to find a way to eliminate it! _Et if you don't find it, you have to accept it, make sense of it. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39139
« Learn to laugh in insecurity, not be afraid of vulnerability, laugh a little more, fear a little less. That's the challenge, the grace! »
Alexandre Jollien (Mischievous wisdom)


#39140
« It must be noted that the most difficult thing, at least in my opinion, is to listen to the other without judging him. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39141
« "ALEXANDRE: -By trusting us, he invited us to discover our illusions, our inclinations, our weaknesses. Like you, he considered that everyone had in him the solutions that it was simply a matter of highlighting. Matthew did not profess an abstract theory, external to the subject, he awakened in us a knowledge, numbing abilities." SOCRATES: -This is a good definition of the educator. ALEXANDRE: Yes I think... The one who helps to give birth, who questions, the one who awakens the abilities buried by different obstacles. This approach requires absolute confidence in man, but also humility, humility that allows us to keep our distance, not to judge the other, to realize that the other will always remain an irreducible individual, who cannot be totally submissive, analyzed, understood." »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39142
« You can run away from everything, it's easy; but it's very difficult to run away from yourself. The source of your suffering is the self. You will not know rest until you know nothing and annihilate the self and your desires. Die before you die and bury your "self" in your grave of non-desire, then you will have attained happiness »
Alexandre Jollien (Mischievous wisdom)


#39143
« What man does not learn in wisdom, he learns in suffering »
Alexandre Jollien (Mischievous wisdom)


#39144
« Growing up is not enriching yourself with something new, but discovering what you already have inside. »
Alexandre Jollien


#39145
« There is no need to deserve God's love, it is an infinite grace. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39146
« We live in society. We live thanks to each other, through encounters. Page98 »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39147
« Time inevitably led us in his walk without ever being opposed to a why.... »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39148
« Often, we go outside to know the world without being aware of all that is buried under the characters, the roles we play and that inhabit us. Until we reach what we really are, relaxation is just an appearance. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39149
« Unconditional love is not absolute tolerance. It's total benevolence to what's here and now. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39150
« Life is purely free. You just have to ask yourself how I can give the most of everything I am today. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39151
« When you start to think of life as a due, you prepare for a lot of suffering. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39152
« Determination is perseverance. I keep moving on at all costs. I'm progressing as I am. What matters is to take a step, just this one, tomorrow we'll see. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39153
« A superb book, filled with philosophy and spirituality as well as great depth. He's doing good! »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39154
« My past thus became the ground for my reflection. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39155
« ALEXANDRE When a child tries to flourish in an environment where he is constantly devalued (often unintentionally), he will internalize this projection and assimilate the remarks he has heard. Many of us risked losing all spontaneous confidence in life. In this regard, recent studies have claimed that the first words spoken at the birth of a newborn have an unsuspected influence on its development. Hegel has put a lot of emphasis on the problem of the gaze of others. He sees in the meeting of the other a way to rise, to grow, to become fully human... Sartre describes throughout his work, notably in his famous play "Eight Closed", our visceral and profound need to feel recognized, a need never satisfied. SOCRATE The look of others, in my opinion, builds, structures our personality. However, it can also harm, condemn, hurt. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39156
« To meet the other is to put down our prejudices. We are not preparing for the meeting, there is no protocol. (p.99) »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39157
« A human heart is so vast that it may well house some paradoxes. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39158
« But for that, education seems essential to me. Every parent should spend time explaining to children why there are different people, people who don't see, adults "in strollers" like babies. Children, researchers, true aspiring philosophers, want to understand. The word "why" keeps coming up on their lips. Often, this thirst for knowledge is hampered, and the indifference of the parents destroys that interest. [...] Is there something we can do about it? It's hard. Perhaps we should not defend, but rather learn to look differently, to understand. I've seen kids change completely. by a simple explanation, their way of thinking became more natural, more friendly, more true. p.70 »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39159
« I keep moving forward at all costs, I'm progressing as I am. What matters is to take this step, just this one. Tomorrow we'll see. Yesterday is a thing of the past. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39160
« You don't have to be called Buddha, or have held the cobra's posture every Tuesday night, to realize that nothing is safe except death. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Man's Job)


#39161
« To lead a simple life is to surrender to everything. It is not even a question of wanting to make one's regrets disappear. If the regrets are there, no problem, they have their place. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39162
« A phrase from Spinoza illustrates the quest of my existence: "Do well and stand in joy". »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39163
« As long as I love an image of God or an image of my wife, I don't like it for herself. As long as I love the perfect, flawless image of my children, I don't like them for what they are. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39164
« What can I do to protect myself from life? Absolutely nothing. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39165
« The question was already asked for disability: why me? Why this inequality? I thought I was calming the wound with well-known words from Spinoza: "By reality and perfection I mean the same thing." Injustice is elsewhere. It implies a freedom, a will, a responsible. Three rounds of umbilical cord are due to the lack of pot, by no means an injustice! Starving, there it is, injustice! »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39166
« Why is such authenticity not a must in everyday life? How many dramas would be swept away by a bit of frankness and transparency? »
Alexandre Jollien (Mischievous wisdom)


#39167
« To see that everything is transient, ephemeral, that nothing can be achieved, relieves us of the responsibility to control everything. We are on board, we are on our way, that's all. »
Alexandre Jollien (Mischievous wisdom)


#39168
« Learn how to make the fun last? Living to the full is also slowing down. Not to mention the infamous accusation of laziness that, sooner or later, risks falling on the one who can no longer follow others, society, rhythm, this frantic dance. Spot the signs of wear before this rust devours the machine and stop running. What could be more passive than a rock in free fall? »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39169
« A first step, even if interested, can lead to the pure love of God. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39170
« Christian Bobin's walking man invites me to consider the first comer as my neighbour. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39171
« In the evening, I wondered deep down: "Am I less free than the others? Will there always be someone who, beyond his fear, will remind me, in good faith, that I am disabled?" »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39172
« Let life be what it is. Without judging her, without why, without regret. Right there. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39173
« The illusion, the dream, the fantasy of impeccable health makes you sick and diverts forces that reside deep down. Until the last breath, nothing is played. »
Alexandre Jollien (Mischievous wisdom)


#39174
« It doesn't matter what the injuries are, the missteps, the chaos. Too bad if I am not up to my dreams, provided I stay the course, in joy Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher) »
Alexandre Jollien


#39175
« By the force of things, the feet in our hooves, we were by nature realistic, concrete, always immersed in the present. As for the past, it had almost no consistency. It didn't matter if you were in the first or second year of school. The present was already absorbing, as you said, all our concerns, all our thoughts. We did not complicate our existence. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39176
« It is by practicing virtue that one acquires virtue. It is by doing small acts of trust that one becomes confident. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39177
« All my admiration goes to the heroes, the heroes of the little daily joy »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39178
« There is nothing left to lose if everything is already lost. Freed from obsessions, we can then make ourselves available to what happens. The great health is to do with its weaknesses, its diseases, its incurable ailments, the thousand and one wounds that gnaw at us. Fighting, engaging, being in solidarity, it is possible. Even, and above all, if everything is unfair and breaks the mouth. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39179
« In South Korea, I live without the army of doctors around me and I am no worse off. I'm beginning to understand that no doctor can cure me. And little by little, I healed from the idea of healing. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39180
« A thousand intentions are not worth an act. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39181
« There is nothing to lose since everything is already lost in advance. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Man's Job)


#39182
« Huge challenge: trying to lead a life less automatic, simpler, more natural, freer, getting closer to others, killing the ego, daring to abandon. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39183
« I'm not used to listening or keeping quiet yet. It takes years to learn to speak, and more to be silent! (P284) »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39184
« Zazen is letting things manifest themselves without interfering, without commenting. Everything can become a zazen opportunity. When I walk, I walk... without my mind wandering elsewhere, without me getting lost in vain musings that cut me off from the present world. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39185
« I really doubt that my therapeutic arsenal can turn a ferocious beast into a dove or an angry one into a sweet lamb. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39186
« Meeting the other is to rest a little of oneself. The greatest suffering, in my opinion, is the one that withdraws us into ourselves, the one that encloses on our little self. And it ends up feeling musty in there! To meet the other is to strip a little of oneself, to strip oneself of everything that one projects on the other. (p.98) »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39187
« And Gandhi is given this wonderful formula: "You have to live just so that others can just live". »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39188
« Some passages in this book have reminded me of one of the most beautiful pages in the history of Western philosophy (although it is hardly known!). I am referring to the first lines of Raymond Llull's "Book of Contemplation", Raymond the Fool, who, so many times, had had to fight the harsh ordeal of anguish and melancholy. the Catalan philosopher expresses his deep joy at being-in-being; Ah! Oh, My God! Be blessed and praised, for man must rejoice very much in what he is in, and that he is not deprived of it. We, who are certain to be truly, rejoice in it." Or more simply, in four words: "The Philosopher is always joyful" ("Philosophus semper is laetus") (in the preface by Ruedi Imbach) »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39189
« In the meeting, the educators stead ran to convince each other of their self-sacrifice, their honesty... (p. 60) »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39190
« It is in the everyday, in the banal, that the joy resides. A conversion of my life was to no longer ask myself, "What does it take for me to be happy?" but: "How can I be in joy, here and now »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39191
« Once born, man is promised the worst. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Man's Job)


#39192
« The art of standing up, of staying the course, precisely implies a happier horizon towards which to move. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Man's Job)


#39193
« Learn how to make the fun last? Living to the full is also slowing down. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39194
« If I can, at this time, detach myself from what is material, it is because I am not really in need. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39195
« I would define passion as what is stronger in me than I am. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39196
« Philosophy speaks of incontinence. Is incontinent the one who, powerless to master himself, pitifully observes the desolate spectacle of his internal confrontations. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39197
« He who, from birth, rubs shoulders with suffering or pain, begins life with a benefactor realism. In the end, too soon advised that life is inexorably accompanied by sorrows, he sinks less easily into discouragement and, savoring the necessity of combat, more easily recognizes and thwarts the cruelty of his opponent. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Man's Job)


#39198
« At the heart of my weakness, I can therefore appreciate the gift of the presence of the other and in my turn, I try with my means to offer them my humble and fragile presence. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39199
« Humility is about being right in your place. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39200
« The "it's not complicated" helps me to give up on life by finding a solution..., I'm not tired of getting tired of it. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39201
« Until we reach what we really are, relaxation is just an appearance. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39202
« The counting begins with small daily gestures that perhaps lead us to the big count: to strip ourselves of the big self, well settled, which I believe to be, but which suffocates me, which prevents me from being free and joyful, to move forward naked. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39203
« Perhaps the great patience begins there, being patient in the face of his impatience. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39204
« A thousand steps forward, nine hundred and ninety-nine back. That is progress. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Man's Job)


#39205
« What a chasm between what I would like, what I might be, and what I am! Faced with my helplessness, in the face of my inability to twist my neck to these contradictions that do not hold up, I am tempted to hate myself. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39206
« It is more difficult to be an eight-day man honest than a hero for a quarter of an hour. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39207
« The difference disturbs, deconstrucance of man in his concern for perfection. As for fear, it shrinks it. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39208
« Laughter becomes with joy, the weapon that is opposed to discouragement. Unlike mockery, laughter brings people together, brings people together, makes you stronger. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Man's Job)


#39209
« From morning to night, I try to become someone else by taking the risk of denying myself. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39210
« Praise of weakness traces an inner route, a kind of conversion to philosophy. The author, handicapped by birth, imagines receiving a visit from Socrates in person. From then on, an exchange ensues where from near to near emerge - tools to learn to progress in joy, to keep the course in the heart of the torments and not to be determined by the gaze of the other. Philosophy here is an art of living, a way to abandon prejudices in order to discover oneself and build one's uniqueness. Gradually, a conversion takes place, the weak, the vulnerability, the trial can become fertile places of freedom and joy. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39211
« We live thanks to each other, through encounters. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39212
« I let the emotion come, then develop and fade on my own. Because comparison kills the world and the real. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39213
« nothing is complicated »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39214
« No mercy. Once again, I agree with Nietzsche. I think he sees right when he condemns pity, hypocrisy or appearance. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39215
« '...) the exercise of meditation consists in seeing the emptiness, to let yourself be totally relaxed in the emptiness. To think of thoughts as birds. And behind the birds, there is an immensely blue sky. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39216
« Social Security should reimburse all the books that give us back. »
Alexandre Jollien (Mischievous wisdom)


#39217
« Freud claims that one of the greatest sources of suffering lies in the relationship with others, in social games and forbidden. To live in society is to take blows, to repress, to hide, to hide, to correct, to adjust, to adapt constantly, not to mention this immense carnival where everyone must put on a suit, to be bullied with more or less virtuosity. »
Alexandre Jollien (Mischievous wisdom)


#39218
« To aspire to great health is not to run away but to marry the real as it gives itself and twist the neck to the sirens. »
Alexandre Jollien (Mischievous wisdom)


#39219
« To move towards great health, let us stop dreaming of a sanitized world, purged of tragedy, and have fun finding joy in this low world, in the midst of vicissitudes. Nietzsche helps for sure: "You still have to have chaos in yourself to give birth to a dancing star." »
Alexandre Jollien (Mischievous wisdom)


#39220
« It is written plethora of initiations to spiritual life. However, we cannot learn to swim by reading books on hydrodynamics or by staying dry by the pool. You have to jump, dive with your feet, dare to drink the cup, sometimes sink, and float in the heart of the tragic. »
Alexandre Jollien (Mischievous wisdom)


#39221
« An allegory that speaks volumes about our modesty, which strives to hide a particular part of the body, but does not hesitate to deliver anger, gossip and violence to the first comer in total impudence. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39222
« Humility is about being right in your place. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39223
« Great health is more marathon than sprint »
Alexandre Jollien (Mischievous wisdom)


#39224
« If we run from morning to night like crazy, if we mistreat our carcass, how can we aspire to have a little peace of mind? In short, the casuistic of self-love, as he says is vital »
Alexandre Jollien (Mischievous wisdom)


#39225
« What does it matter in the end? Career plans, successes, successes, performances, flesh-pulling, resentment, resentment, or that "goodbye Mrs. Blanc" that crowns a life devoted to the other, given whole, and throws labels, roles and all social varnishes back into oblivion. »
Alexandre Jollien (Mischievous wisdom)


#39226
« I would like to embrace the career of a policeman, repair the living, dezing grudges, restraints, anything that kills us before the hour. How can the spirit of seriousness, the pretension, the selfishness, the wickedness survive in the face of this obvious, joyful and tragic: we will all end up between four planks and the handful of moments given to us is a miracle. »
Alexandre Jollien (Mischievous wisdom)


#39227
« Anyone who knows the limits of life knows that it is easy to obtain what removes the suffering due to the need of what brings the whole life to its perfection. (Epicure) »
Alexandre Jollien (Self-building: A use of philosophy)


#39228
« Difficulty seasons, stimulates, it forces to find solutions. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39229
« Well, the friend in good, when I try to represent him, it is wide open arms that welcome the other as he is and nurtures for him unconditional love. He unconditionally likes: "I love you without you needing to do anything." Page24 »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39230
« When you start to think of life as a due and not as a gift, when you say, "This is my place in the sun," you prepare for a lot of suffering. Because one thing is certain: at the end of life we will lose everything. Then as much as everything gives him. We might as well consider the health of children, our own health, our friends, as huge gifts and not as a due. In short, gratitude is revisiting everything you receive with new freedom and enjoying it even more, without holding on, without clinging. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39231
« A thorner from Spinoza, Blyenbergh, contrasted him with the famous example of the blind, objecting almost so: "But the blind is not perfect. He's missing something. The view, precisely." Spinoza replies in essence: "Are you missing wings?" If I was asked that, I would say at the outset: "No, of course, I don't lack wings." Spinoza made Blyenbergh understand that if everyone had wings except him, he would miss it terribly. In other words, what is not lacking in itself becomes a lack when I compare myself to the other. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39232
« Don't add anything when the difficulties arise. Without denying them, it is a question of returning to reality, of seeing that the imaginary, like a horse, gets carried away and makes the situation worse. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39233
« Perhaps there are childhood injuries that could not be fully experienced, and for that reason remain. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39234
« (p. 65) For me, prayer is about presenting yourself naked to God, without expectations. Prayer is often seen as a request. (...) But since I read the Diamond Soutra, it seems to me that prayer is not prayer, which is why I call it prayer. Prayer is not: "Give me this." Because when we say, "Give me this," we cut ourselves off from everything, we fix ourselves, we limit ourselves to a result. If God exists, he will not give a turnkey answer to our prayer. (...) To be without waiting. Let yourself be opened... »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39235
« We live in society. We live thanks to each other, through encounters. Without the encounters that made me and defeated me, I would not be in this world. To meet the other is to rest a little of oneself. The greatest suffering is that which we fall back on ourselves. The one that closes us in on our little self. And it ends up feeling musty in there! to meet the other is to get out of the roles we play. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39236
« Do not believe that the one who tries to comfort you lives effortlessly among the simple and serene words that sometimes do you good. His life is so sad and sad that leave him far behind. If it were otherwise, he would never have been able to find those words. »
Alexandre Jollien (Man's profession: Tracking 'Spiritual Practice')


#39237
« On the way back, I feel that deep down there is a heart that expands, a being that regains its dimension: the less one takes care of oneself, the less one suffers. Meeting others, listening to them, certainly contributes to this. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39238
« Gratitude as an antidote to dissatisfaction, as an awareness that I also exist through the other, has not finished delivering me... »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39239
« Regret makes us twice unhappy: the first, for not having achieved what we desired; the second, to reactivate the sadness by reproaching us for experiencing it. Quite the opposite of joy, in which we do not judge life! »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39240
« It is difficult to be simple. It's hard to stay naked in the face of life. It is as if our mind is working from morning to night to complicate it, to compare it, to wait for circumstances that will never happen, to regret a past that has passed forever. To lead a simple life is to surrender to everything. It is not even a question of wanting to make one's regrets disappear. If the regrets are there, no problem, they have their place. To begin a simple life is to ask what is central in my existence: problems, tensions, tensions? And live, simply. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39241
« So let us ask ourselves what is at the center of our lives. Is it our problems, our complexes, our social games? Is it the other one? What is the center of my life? What gives the direction of my existence? Certainly, laughter prevents us from settling in. Let's start by laughing at ourselves, because there's plenty to do. Boredom has little or no place. As soon as you start laughing at yourself, everything becomes exercise. I can even laugh at my stubbornness. Far from mockery, laughter can become an instrument of life that uproots all narcissistic fixation and helps us move forward. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39242
« When you start to think of life as a due and not as a gift, when you say, "This is my place in the sun," you prepare for a lot of suffering. Because one thing is certain: at the end of life, we will lose everything. Then you might as well give it everything. We might as well consider the health of children, our own health, our friends, as huge gifts and not as a due. In short, gratitude is revisiting everything you receive with new freedom and enjoying it even more, without holding on, without clinging. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39243
« The "It's not complicated" helps me to return to the present moment, to find the right answer to what the circumstances dictate. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39244
« Yes, no pity. Once again, I agree with Nietzsche. I think he sees right when he condemns pity, hypocrisy or appearance. Every day I encounter this condescending look that thinks it pleases me, perhaps sincerely, but who denies my freedom and ipso facto denies me. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39245
« Learn to transform a banal "Hello" by saying "I wish you the best. Enjoy the day in peace, joy and love. " »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39246
« Trust may mean stopping clinging to peace, healing, happiness and simply moving forward step by step, without why. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39247
« Have the courage to remain open and available and, when the mind makes its own, calm it down for a simple question: What's going on up there? Who's freaking out right now? »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39248
« To live is to suffer and burst out laughing... »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39249
« The difference disturbs, deconstrucance of man in his concern for perfection. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39250
« We are perperted to judge life, and the self seems programmed to refuse the real. There's always something wrong with him that's not up to scratch. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39251
« In the same hour I can be a shabby, deplorable husband, as much as a model husband. The important thing is not to fix myself in any attitude, not to fix myself anywhere and to move forward... »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39252
« Do not believe that the one who tries to comfort you lives effortlessly among the simple and serene words that sometimes do you good. His life is so sad and sad that leave him far behind. If it were otherwise, he would never have been able to find those words. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Man's Job)


#39253
« Although I am essentially alone - I suffer alone, I will die alone - the presence of the other marks my existence. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Man's Job)


#39254
« How can you stay alive and not become the puppet of your passions? »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39255
« I realize that I no longer have to fight existence, nor want to become someone. Just be there, without bitterness or bitterness, and be powerfully active. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39256
« The word represents a chain to which existence is linked, the prison in which an individual is locked. The term becomes heavier than the reality it purports to refer to. When my neighbour disappears under the label of depressive, when others appear only as the diabetic, the widower or the black, the reduction to work in many eyes weighs, bruises the personality and opens secret wounds. (...) Yet the very fixity of judgment reduces the richness of reality, of the human being before whom one should at least be surprised, if not dare to marvel. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Man's Job)


#39257
« Early on, therefore, life was announced as a struggle. The first years of my life, I dedicated them to the correction of the beast, to the adaptation of a reticent body. The long sequence of its dysfunctions required a thousand efforts, it was necessary to use soul and body ... to reach the next day safely. Often the irremediable was gaining ground, often it seemed to annihilate the present. Every morning, the fight started again, the strategies were refined. A formidable and recognized obstacle, hostile resignation was outlawed. No trick, no effort could be spared. Far from saddening me, the struggle to be delivered without truce and unexpectedly delivers an authentic joy that I invariably found with the comrades around me. Supporting the morale of this singular troupe, the jubilation crowned and turned into triumph all progress, all success, even the most insignificant. (...) Curious paradox: often the most precarious situations have to fight. Forbidding passivity, they incite challenge. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Man's Job)


#39258
« Very early on I felt the need to understand the cruelty of relationships between individuals, the precariousness of my condition as a man. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39259
« At the bottom of the bed, damp eyes stare at the ceiling, the face moist and enlarged emerges from the white sheets. A stiff hand remains perfectly still so as not to hinder the derisory work of drip. In the cold room, among the sick, I perceive the sanctity of the human being, of the body that constitutes him. The body in agony that life deserts by small sneaky steps sets me up in a strange feeling of respect. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Man's Job)


#39260
« Not necessarily a life lesson or a book that is dogmatic in front of its readers. Simply, the philosophy of a man who tries to surrender himself to the present moment. Nor is it a popularized treatise despite its simplicity. The author also has a sense of humour. "I am determined to become who I am here and now." »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39261
« The adversities encountered constitute a soil on which existence will be built. Without blaming those who are struggling, let us just refer to these biographies that remind us that nothing is ever lost »
Alexandre Jollien (The Man's Job)


#39262
« Everything I build, I tear, for a time, to the grip of suffering; all joy I give, I oppose sadness, loneliness. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Man's Job)


#39263
« To be light, is therefore to use forceful joy against what is sour, against what isolates, to support the sufferer so that he does not slam into his ill-being. Lightness goes against it, it against what shrinks »
Alexandre Jollien (The Man's Job)


#39264
« It's about evacuating disappointments, grudges, guilt to live more freely our shortcomings. »
Alexandre Jollien (Self-building: A use of philosophy)


#39265
« Lightness also forces people not to fall into self-hatred »
Alexandre Jollien (The Man's Job)


#39266
« We can't want what we don't know. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39267
« Of course, disability and deprivation exist. But I think they are aggravated and become even more painful as soon as I compare myself to my neighbour (...). The way of my life is to accept or rather to welcome my whole being, without rejecting anything from him. Find beauty, joy, where they give themselves: in this body, in this being, in this life and not in a dreamed, idealized life. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39268
« Gratitude is not to deny the tragedy of existence... Gratitude is rather to feed on what is good, to savor all that is given. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39269
« Anger this fundamental passion is the responsibility of the animal part in us, however, as one Internet user reminds us, it is above all "the manifestation of a wounded ego". Our propensity for irritability tells quite well the degree of our susceptibility and the extent of our attachments. So when in the distance rises a crisis, a threshold of bloodshed, it remains only to realize that, almost suddenly on, it is my little self that is not happy, that it feels threatened flouted, outraged. The remedies required will inevitably hold palliative care as long as the ego reigns supreme amid the outbursts of rage, the outbursts of fury. Anger is a true self-goal, it almost inevitably aggravates the situation. Isn't the one she's taking over above all her prey? I fear it because it takes me away from joy and has made me stupid, wicked and unhappy more than once. (...) Behind the anger, it seems, is another passion, fear. I presume that a man without it would be released from that one. What he does not get by vociferating, he might have, if he had kept his calm received on a tray. Yes, the angry one shoots himself in the foot. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39270
« I project on the different individual, all the anguish, the fear, the discomfort that arises from dissimilarity. In the absence of experience, I cannot explain this very complex feeling which, certainly, finds its source first in ourselves. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39271
« the more an individual deviates from the norm, the less normal it will be. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39272
« In the past, by the voice of the skeptics, you already prosced any presumption and ruled out haste. The Latin word "praeceps", the "head first", testifies to the peril that threatens the impatient. Similarly you inspired Wittgenstein, one of your distinguished representatives of the past century. The curious man used to greet who passed him by a "Take your time". The philosopher, who took his time and therefore came last, could find only through his eyes. As a gentleman, the author of the "Tractatus logico-philosophicus" insinuated that it was very wise to defer his answers. »
Alexandre Jollien (Self-building: A use of philosophy)


#39273
« No one is mean. (Socrates) »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39274
« Know yourself. (Socrates) »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39275
« A friend suffered from a mild thumb disability. He always kept his hand in his pocket. I said to him: We must not run away from disability. Look at me, to hide mine, I'd have to go out on the street wrapped in a garbage bag! » »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39276
« I discovered that to float there was nothing to do. Without resistance, without tension, the swimmer who excels in the art of floating, has nothing to do. This non-sports activity could inspire an art of living: do nothing, not fight, not to oppose, not to discuss the real but to let itself float in it. Detachment, in the midst of the wave of passions, is the art of floating happily. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39277
« An adequate desire is a desire that is born deep within oneself and is not imported from the outside. It seems to me that this is the one to visit. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39278
« One of the conversions of my life was to stop asking myself: "What do I need to be happy?" but: "How can I be in joy, here and now. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39279
« Burhân al-Din, a Sufi master, says: "You can run away from everything, it's easy; but it's very difficult to run away from yourself. The source of your suffering is the self. You will not know rest until you have become nothing and annihilate the self and your desires. Die before you die and bury your "self" in the grave of non-desire, then you will have attained happiness. » »
Alexandre Jollien (Mischievous wisdom)


#39280
« To move towards mischievous wisdom is to do everything possible so that bitterness, wickedness and discouragement do not have the last word. »
Alexandre Jollien (Mischievous wisdom)


#39281
« In this train that rushes irretrievably, which is speeding towards death, at the mercy of derailments, setbacks, unforeseen events, how to make a good journey? The challenge seems superhuman. It is not a question of supporting, accepting, nor of resolving the tragic but downright to love it. »
Alexandre Jollien (Mischievous wisdom)


#39282
« Why this inner radio, this FM mental that condemns, judges relentlessly? Why am I so afraid to live? »
Alexandre Jollien (Mischievous wisdom)


#39283
« The eyes that stop at the surface and judge, prevent many miracles. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39284
« I don't like a picture of my son, I love him. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39285
« Hence the capital exercise: dare to not-fix, not to cling to the past, but to give body and soul at the moment, to be renewed by it. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39286
« No, it's not a bad thing to marvel! Getting closer to reality, opening your eyes, being there. Focus your gaze on everything that's going well. p 190 »
Alexandre Jollien


#39287
« I remain convinced that a Christian and a disciple of Shakyamuni Buddha can move hand in hand, walking happily on the same paths. Climbing together the peaks or differences, the barriers or the walls do not rise. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39288
« I always remember that rebellious spirit to whom I addressed my usual greeting »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39289
« Life is never missed. Life is not to be successful. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39290
« It is not when I have settled all my accounts with life that I will be happy. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39291
« Zen is about the empty mirror. Indeed, the mirror reflects reality without distorting it, without grabbing it or rejecting anything. You can put a scumbag in front of the mirror, it stays clean. One can put a diamond, a fatal beauty, he is not troubled by what he contemplates. For me, humility is first and foremost reflecting and knowing each other properly. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39292
« As long as we refuse to wake up every morning in an unjust and twisted world, we get caught up in the face of blows that, in the long run, leave us more or less stunned. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39293
« Each of us drags his pots and pans, his wounds. Loving always combines with the present, far from resentment, betrayals and reproaches. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39294
« With great importance, we have moved away from the joy, peace and love that remain intact in the depths. And to meditate, to be lonely, to practice generosity, is to go down, to dive, to forget! Every day, release what soils the source of our heart. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39295
« The eyes that stop at the surface and judge, prevent many miracles. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39296
« Silence is both empty and full, like the bottom of the soul. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39297
« With my Korean dictionary, I quickly realized that to learn, I had to be silent, listen, listen a lot and do cures of silence. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39298
« Meeting the other is to rest a little of oneself. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39299
« What increases suffering and creates lack is comparison. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39300
« Wanting the good of the other without imposing on him his own version of the good, this is a beautiful definition of love and friendship. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39301
« For God's sake, there must be another way than struggle, civil war, effort, deprivation? Life is already, my faith, very demanding. »
Alexandre Jollien (Mischievous wisdom)


#39302
« To love life is not to remain very much on a promontory and watch from afar the ocean go wild. It's diving, drinking the cup thousands and thousands of times, floating, sinking and getting carried away. The lure of the new, the fierce will for healing, the hope of a flight to a promised land, all these illusions prevent us from accepting wounds, chaos and all that has no solution? »
Alexandre Jollien (Mischievous wisdom)


#39303
« Basically, I was just going around in circles, without understanding that the training of the mind is a joy, a liberation, a sovereign way to return to this body without squinting at anything. Love, friendship, sexuality, asceticism, prayer, webcams, there are a thousand paths that lead to freedom. »
Alexandre Jollien (Mischievous wisdom)


#39304
« Nietzsche pulverizes the illusion that all problems must be solved in order to have access to genuine health. Even the most calamitous medical record does not forbid to be healthy in its entirety. No trauma, no infirmity prevents you from getting to the bottom of the bottom. »
Alexandre Jollien (Mischievous wisdom)


#39305
« Hypocrisy, fraud and fundamental distortion of the ego has extremely hard and thick skin. We tend to wear armour made of layered protective layers. This hypocrisy is very dense, and it has several levels: have we not rather removed one thickness of our armour than we discover another one below. We always hope that we will not have to undress completely. CHOGYAM TRUNGPA Tibetan Way Practice. »
Alexandre Jollien (Mischievous wisdom)


#39306
« Everything makes sense. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39307
« I insist on trials because they remain unavoidable. There is no point in talking, of epilogue for hours about suffering. We must find ways to eliminate it and, if we cannot, accept it, make sense of it. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39308
« Behind the anger, it seems, is another passion, fear. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39309
« To welcome without judging all that rises in the consciousness, to see that it remains intact, that nothing alters this immense sky. This morning, in the sky, there is fatigue, a lot of joy, still a lot of non-love and tension. Simply turn your eyes inwards and look into the sky. In the sky, there are... »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39310
« The insane desire would be that we progress once and for all, that we heal from all our inner wounds. But this is probably radically impossible. What saves us is to know that one cannot heal from one's wounds but that one can live with them, that one can coexist with them without necessarily being bitter. And the determination, perhaps, on a day of thick fog, when you see nothing at two meters, to keep moving forward. p.61 »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39311
« I am more and more convinced that meeting the other is to strip. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39312
« I like the idea that humility is not to formalize the remarks of others, but just to be in total agreement with the reality of the moment. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39313
« Good morning and welcome to all. I am very pleased to be able to speak to you directly. For me writing is getting harder and harder. [...] Orality, on the other hand, allows us to embrace the course of life, to surrender to existence. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39314
« It is therefore difficult to define abnormality exclusively in relation to compliance with the rules of one and one company, as these may vary. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39315
« The test of the gaze is not always easily experienced; too often it is even a tragedy, and freeing oneself from it is perhaps the most delicate learning. No, not all men are yet equal in the eyes of society, for some discourses persist in placing the poor, the disabled, the sick in the rank of the unfortunate. The experience of death, that of physical and psychological suffering, is of infinite loneliness. »
Alexandre Jollien (Man's profession: Tracking 'Spiritual Practice')


#39316
« Knowing the possible usefulness of his evil does not relieve the patient. Knowing why suffering exists does not soften the sorrows of the dying, nor the wounds of the beaten, abandoned child. Even theoretically elucidated, the problem of evil would remain an existential drama. The tragedy is here, too! By protecting myself from the eyes that condemn and humiliate me, I also end up closing my eyes who love. »
Alexandre Jollien (Man's profession: Tracking 'Spiritual Practice')


#39317
« Disability is not a problem. It becomes as soon as I start thinking, comparing, regretting, wanting. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39318
« "Without the other, I am nothing, I do not exist. Autrui constitutes me as he can destroy me." »
Alexandre Jollien (The Man's Job)


#39319
« Then I felt immense joy, the loss of the illusion of total healing. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39320
« "And you know what joy is?" All smiles, my son, in the middle of, replied: Make a beautiful poo, while my daughter said: Joy is to be happy. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39321
« To go to God is to free oneself from oneself and from what we will say to love, to grow. It is disobeying fear, anger, ego and passion. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39322
« Look at our thoughts as if they were our children whom we contemplate, whom we watch peacefully. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39323
« Joy passes through me, sadness too. They come and go. They do not settle (Houeineng) »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39324
« Learn not to refuse the real anymore, to accept what is, without resisting, without constantly struggling, this unfortunate tendency that leads me to exhaustion. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39325
« A long time ago, in forgotten days, all parts of the human body fought over hegemony. Every member wanted to govern. The fighting raged. In turn, the candidates advanced to claim the royal title. Not a body that did not judge itself worthy of the front row. The head proclaimed that, without it, the whole thing would go into a spin, that anarchy would take place and that, beheaded, the body would hardly survive. There were many big opponents, feet for example, thanks to whom one travels, but almost all seemed to agree to elect him. A shy, discreet, deaf voice, suddenly heard: "I am the leader." Thus began the anus. There is no need to dwell on the taunts that followed the words of the proud orifice. Frustrated, the unfortunate applicant decided to go on strike. As the days passed, he even blocked himself, gradually but surely. Then the head became so entangled that she could no longer hold the reins. She was rambling all the time. The stomach also paid the price for this unemployment. In short, hallucinations, sourness, nausea... forced the unanimous assembly to appoint Sire Sphincter as master of the body. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39326
« Gratitude is not to deny the tragedy of existence. It's not about telling someone who's in pain, "Look at all the beauty you've got!" It would be almost insulting, it would make him feel bad. Gratitude is rather to feed on what is good, to savor all that is given. So for once, it may be good to take a look at the past, even if I often forbid myself so as not to fall into regret and remorse. The exercise of gratitude may also pass through this rereading of the past. (p.76) »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39327
« What can I do to protect myself from life? Absolutely nothing. And yet day after day, I try to build shields and facades that would protect me from the tragedy of existence. The tragic dimension of life is part of life. When you understand it from the bottom of your being, you can dance with this tragic without getting tense. But in the meantime it takes a lot of determination to get closer little by little. Amiel said: "A thousand steps forward ninety nine steps back. That is progress. The alienated desire would be that we progress once and for all, that we heal from all our inner wounds. But this is probably radically impossible. What saves us is knowing that we cannot live with them without necessarily bitterness. And the determination is perhaps on a thick day of fog, when you see nothing two meters away to keep moving. What helps me is the shikantza of Zen. (p.60 and 61) »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39328
« The way of my life is to accept or rather to welcome my whole being without rejecting anything from him. Find beauty, joy, where they give themselves: in this body, in this being, and not in a dreamed life, idealized. It is in everyday life, in the banal that joy resides. (p. 39 and 40) »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39329
« One of the paths to inner freedom is not to be found in self-assertion, as is all too often understood, but just in being there. just be yourself, no more and no less, and be open to the other. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39330
« To live is to suffer. All right! But if, in addition, we do everything to spoil the existence ... I suffer from a cruel inability to rejoice that prevents me from simply enjoying, here and now. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39331
« It takes courage when everything goes wrong and everything goes in circles, just to continue and get patient ... Not to overreact and be patient. The way I go there is love, joy, gratitude. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39332
« Time is money, but more is peace. Who renounces to run is fast approaching joy and serenity. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39333
« Unconditional love is not absolute tolerance. It's total benevolence to what's here and now. It doesn't matter what the past is. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39334
« Philosophy, in fact, is this demanding and continuous effort to "look differently". »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39335
« It takes courage when everything goes wrong and everything goes in circles, just to continue and be patient. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39336
« To be absent in what I perceive to forget the self. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39337
« So I set out to use words, to provoke laughter among my dear comrades. Very quickly, to the general astonishment, I made myself a place among them. Oddly enough, my authentic friends were not among the first in class, nor among the docile, but among the last, the unruly, those who sneer "all behind", those who know how to be cruel. These very people showed me a tenderness, an innocence, a love that I never found anywhere else. The way they helped me, the way they came into contact with me, was a form of nudity. It was not the pity of the old women who gave me a hundred cents (which I did not always dislike), nor the ostentatious altruism of the son to Dad who demonstrate his good education, his know-how. The cockroach's friendship was clumsy, discreet, sincere. He confided in me and I dared to turn myself in to him. I always remember that rebellious spirit to whom I addressed my usual greeting: "Be wise." One day, he answered me to point: "And you, walk straight!" It gave me extreme pleasure. He felt for myself and had not taken the tweezers that those who smile blithely take when, at the checkout, I breaded my packet of spaghetti with herbs. There are smiles that hurt, compliments that kill. SOCRATES All this would mean that pity hurts more than contempt? ALEXANDRE Yes, no pity. Once again, I agree with Nietzsche. I think he sees right when he condemns pity, hypocrisy or appearance. Every day I encounter this condescending look that grows to please me, perhaps sincerely, but which denies my freedom and nies me ipso facto. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39338
« If you feed a hungry dog, you can beat it, beat it again, it will definitely come back the next day. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39339
« Doesn't perfection happen precisely when nothing is left to be removed? The right balance, the beautiful proportion, the accuracy, that will guide me in my quest. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39340
« How can we claim to be free even when we are only reacting, than positioning ourselves in relation to others, or against him? Opposing, asserting oneself »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39341
« She knows, with Pascal, that if we knew what was behind our backs, few friendships would remain. »
Alexandre Jollien (Self-building: A use of philosophy)


#39342
« The one who constantly possesses the desire to progress or the dream of becoming someone else deprives himself of the sweetness of the moment. If the desire to improve is fruitful, it is akin to a flight when it is merely an excuse to refuse the present. It should be used wisely. »
Alexandre Jollien (Self-building: A use of philosophy)


#39343
« What can I detach myself from here and now? Modestly, I want to part with my mobile phone for an hour, stop having my eyes frozen on him. Step by step, I'd like to free myself a little. Often I set the bar so high that I fall more heavily. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39344
« Can I let myself be touched without wobbling? »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39345
« You can do anything, you can't do that I don't love you. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39346
« I am determined to become who I am with infinite patience. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39347
« The taunt stems from a misdirected, mismanaged weakness. Often people in groups show more cruelty than an isolated individual, who will simply laugh. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39348
« Tradition offers a wide range of characteristics to distinguish man from other creatures in the world. Vast program! Here are some funny ones: Descartes proposes speech, the whimsical Rabelais celebrates laughter, while Brillat-Savarin discovers, in the ability to distill fruits to make liquor, the way to prove that he is a man. Beaumarchais suggests that drinking without thirst and making love at all times sets us apart from other beasts. Finally, Valery writes that whoever knows how to make a knot belongs to the human race. By their confusing aspect, these attempts at definition simply have the merit of highlighting, not without humour, the difficulty of identifying the human being. (...) An overly simplistic definition is therefore dangerous. It misrepresents what is normal or not and leads to exclusion or exclusion. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Man's Job)


#39349
« Socrates: Does all this mean that pity hurts more than contempt? Alexander: Yes, no pity. Once again, I agree with Nietzche.Je think he sees right when he condemns pity, hypocrisy or seems to him. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39350
« SOCRATE Tell me a little about the educators who helped you, the ones you like! I will have a more complete, more neutral opinion. THEY loved us. They trusted us, we had our possibilities. Without pretending to control everything, aware that many elements eluded them, they were modest. More pragmatic than the others, they did not reduce reality to vain schemes, futile theories. They acted like philosophers, letting themselves be led by reality, trying to understand us simply, but as best as possible. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39351
« Lack and boredom may accompany me until my last breath. So what? »
Alexandre Jollien (Self-building: A use of philosophy)


#39352
« He who, from birth, suffers or suffers, begins life with a benefactor realism. In the end, too soon advised that life is inexorably accompanied by sorrows, he sinks less easily into the decoration and, savoring the need of the fight, easily recognizes and thwarts polus polus a »
Alexandre Jollien (The Man's Job)


#39353
« I thought I was trained. Certainly, I was just one of many deformed. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Man's Job)


#39354
« Socrates: You keep coming back to the notion of "standard" , "normality" Could you scrupulously define to me what "normal" means? Alexander: scrupulously,.let me try:"which is consistent with the majority or average of cases or uses:So, for example, it is normal for a twelve-year-old to walk,talk, read, write..... »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39355
« Unconditional love is not absolute tolerance. It's total benevolence to what's here and now. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39356
« Aristotle said that the friend is the salt of life »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39357
« Praise of weakness traces an inner route, a kind of conversion to philosophy. The author, handicapped by birth, imagines receiving a visit from Socrates in person. From then on, an exchange ensues where from near to near emerge - tools to learn to progress in joy, to keep the course in the heart of the torments and not to be determined by the gaze of the other. Philosophy here is an art of living, a way to abandon prejudices in order to discover oneself and build one's uniqueness. Gradually, a conversion takes place, the weak, the vulnerability, the trial can become fertile places of freedom and joy. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39358
« Often, when you suffer, you want to find a solution quickly, you want to move forward and you rush. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39359
« Avoid falling into the way I denounce: don't make spirituality a mecca of navel-gazing »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39360
« Praying is naked, it is undressing oneself, leaving all assignments, and surrendering in confidence. And drop everything: roles expectations fears, and hassle, to be simply present, open to live naked, unarmed, given, as a child R the other day spoke of the naked philosopher. Here's a title!" »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39361
« Children, researchers, true aspiring philosophers, want to understand. The word "why" keeps coming up on their lips. Often, this thirst for knowledge is hampered, and the indifference of the parents destroys that interest. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39362
« If there is a need for restraint, I think that the social convention that dictates it comes primarily from a fear, a discomfort with the body, in the face of the other. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39363
« Desire can therefore become an instrument to return to reality. Desire the best. It is not a question of falling into fatalism and saying, "I am no longer doing anything," "I don't want anything anymore," "I'm vacuuming it," but making desire an instrument of freedom. I desire, among all the passionful fatras that is in me, a little more freedom and I move forward, driven by this desire. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39364
« Weakness can become fruitful generating friendship. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39365
« There is the urgent and the accessory. Progressing, improving our health, was urgent. It had to be used at all times. In our house, no "tomorrow" or "later." The future was limited to weekends; we would then go home to find our parents. For me it was a joy to live two days a week with mom, dad and my brother Franck. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39366
« The so-called madman turns out to be a great sage because he laughs at the unreason of men who are interested in what has no interest and spend their lives undertaking laughable things. (Preface by Ruedi Imbach university professor in Freiburg) »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39367
« Thus, the philosopher John Searle notes that, deprived of the means of communication offered by civilization, the driver, reduced to honking his horn to signify his states of mind and communicate his emotions, can very quickly sink into barbarism. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39368
« Why not join this crowd, rather than judge it foolishly as I do. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39369
« Weakness is the courage of others. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39370
« No, heaven on earth would be where I could say, "Yes, it's a mess, but there's really no problem." »
Alexandre Jollien (Mischievous wisdom)


#39371
« The divine Master Eckhart joins us in the heart of the battlefields and delivers us a salutary ordinance: "Watch yourself, and whenever you find yourself, let yourself be; there is nothing better. Dare I correct the holy man's prescription: "Look at yourself, and every time you find yourself, burst out laughing; there is nothing better. » »
Alexandre Jollien (Mischievous wisdom)


#39372
« Hatred of the body has never brought anyone closer to wisdom... »
Alexandre Jollien (Mischievous wisdom)


#39373
« Schopenhauer claimed that, from an aesthetic point of view, humanity was a tavern of drunks, intellectually an insane asylum, and touching on morality a den of robbers. How can we do everything possible to ensure that this cohabitation does not turn into a brothel, a carnage, a fair of grabs? »
Alexandre Jollien (Mischievous wisdom)


#39374
« I met a master who, unambiguly, said to me, "A bodhisattva can also have a pair of balls." I never knew if I should hear the expression literally or figuratively... And perhaps we can seize this invitation in both ways. »
Alexandre Jollien (Mischievous wisdom)


#39375
« Not to mention this phenomenal vogue that reduces happiness to the rank of merchandise. »
Alexandre Jollien (Mischievous wisdom)


#39376
« In this chapter, Cioran sums up a method to clear the mind perfectly: "For me, happiness is very simple: not thinking about the future." »
Alexandre Jollien (Mischievous wisdom)


#39377
« Happiness is not the sudden and definitive extinction of all problems. That's delusional. You're having a problem, you can be sure there's one that comes right after... Joy is at the heart of this wobbly, fragile, tragic, ephemeral life. »
Alexandre Jollien (Mischievous wisdom)


#39378
« As long as we want to take, we are not in love, we are in a form of waiting, a bit like the baby waiting for the feeding. But giving is neither sacrificing yourself, nor getting rid of, nor covering up gifts. This is the "man's job": to be able to give love. And one must not wait until you have arrived to give. You have to try it right away, otherwise it would be nonsense! »
Alexandre Jollien (The philosophy of joy)


#39379
« Albert Camus is right, in The Fall, he sums up the malaise: "God is not necessary to create guilt, nor punish. Our fellow human beings are enough, helped by ourselves. » »
Alexandre Jollien (Mischievous wisdom)


#39380
« All day long, I try to correct myself and be someone else. How can I be surprised when I'm tired of it and I'm exhausted all the time? I walk as hard as I can to look as much like others as possible, even when I speak, I take care of my speech instead of just being. Who will say the devastation and cruelty of this perpetual and discreet social correction? Hence the immense gift that we can offer our children and our neighbour: non-judgment. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39381
« Consciousness is like a mirror. If we present her with a jewel, she returns her beauty without wanting to grab or reject anything. And in the presence of a rot, she merely reflects it without being reached by this pitiful spectacle. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39382
« Time is money, but more is peace. Who renounces to run is fast approaching joy and serenity. Often I tell myself that the mind is a little monkey that can't stand the calm, that it has to constantly act to feel alive. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39383
« Loving always combines with the present, far from resentment, betrayals and reproaches. ... Benevolence on a daily basis, even in the midst of friction, touches on the sacred. The way? Perhaps, paradoxically, dare not to please at all costs. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39384
« A damning law hangs over our shoulders: the more goals we have during the day, the more we are consumed by stress. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39385
« The great health is to do with its weaknesses, its diseases, its incurable ailments, the thousand and one wounds that gnaw at us. Fighting, engaging, being in solidarity, it is possible. Even, and above all, if everything is unfair and breaks the mouth. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39386
« Fueling the desire to please is not far from slavery. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39387
« Nothing is ever frozen, eternity is played in the moment. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39388
« The rose is without reason, it blooms because it blooms, has no care for itself, does not ask: am I looked at. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39389
« Live your own life. That is, where you are, as you are, with who you are, who you are with. Build on the situation you're in, and try to adapt to it at the same time. You can't escape it. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Master of Yes)


#39390
« Gandhi has this happy formula: "You have to live simply for others to simply live." »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39391
« Living to the full is also slowing down »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39392
« The renunciation of a Saint Francis of Assisi is not a sad one. Instead, he knows the joy of a prisoner freed from his dungeon! p 170 »
Alexandre Jollien


#39393
« Gratitude is rather to feed on what is good, to savor all that is given. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39394
« One of the paths to inner freedom is not to be found in self-assertion, as is all too often understood, but just in being there. Just be yourself, no more and no less, and be open to each other. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39395
« The path I take here is not the easiest, nor the most comfortable. On the one hand, Buddhists complain that I am not Buddhist enough, without understanding that I believe in a God who has revealed himself in the person of Jesus. On the other hand, some Christians reproach me harshly for taking paths of the Buddha, reminding me that Jesus had said that he was "the Way, the Truth and the Life. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39396
« Approaching a life without why is not dismissing all thought. On the contrary. It means no longer being slaves to projects and stopping chaining ourselves to goals. Exist just a little more in the present away from the tyranny of the after. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39397
« There's a time for everything. Nothing is ever frozen, eternity is played in the moment. There's a time to laugh and a time to cry. If, when I laugh, I'm already afraid that it will stop and if, when I cry, I'm afraid it will last my whole life, in both cases I shoot myself in the foot. And I add suffering to suffering. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39398
« Everything is fragile like mist, smoke, a soap bubble that, as soon as you want to grab it, explodes in your face. I tell you, enjoy the maximum, do not waste time getting angry and above all be generous with others! It is not easy for anyone to live in a world where everything can be interrupted at any time. So as much as being good with the others, they are embarked on the same galley. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39399
« The greatest rest coincides with the holiday of the ego. When greed goes away, when a true altruism inhabits us, there is no more effort to go to one's neighbour. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39400
« I realize that being a Buddhist or a Christian is extremely demanding. You can never shout victory and settle down. It's always about getting started, moving forward. And that's what stripper and beautiful! »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39401
« One of the perverse effects of suffering is to lock ourselves in and hurt ourselves even more. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39402
« The first step towards acceptance is to identify what you don't accept and to see that it's not a problem »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39403
« Denigrating what I have will not set me free. The real wealth is to appreciate the daily life. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39404
« To accept to live without reason is to give up finding the cure in the mind and to realize, once and for all, that the ego is conditioned to worry and ruin at every opportunity peace and joy. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39405
« There are so many poisons that prevent us from dialogue. We're talking too much! The vocation of speech is to bring us closer together, to build bridges, to eliminate conflicts, to dissolve misunderstandings and grudges. Nothing to do with that blah blah that furnishes everything. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39406
« To live without reason is to stop wanting to prove anything or be held accountable, but to love the first comer without demanding anything from him in return. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39407
« Thus, invited by business leaders, I often regretted their speech: "See how you can get by by force of will"! »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39408
« To love someone is to love them for what they are in their uniqueness. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39409
« Learn not to refuse the real, to accept what is without resisting, without constantly struggling, this unfortunate tendency that leads me to exhaustion. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39410
« I want to open myself to this new challenge: to meet the true Self, to become Self, beyond comparison and jealousy. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39411
« To love the other as it is is to free yourself from fantasies and desires. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39412
« The difficulties encountered can become formative (...) Difficulty seasons, stimulates, it forces to find solutions. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39413
« "The sweetness of life, in its purest simplicity, reminds us that we must take advantage of it against all odds. Life was no longer a rival but an ally. A demanding, severe, but ally of Alexandre Jollien »
Alexandre Jollien


#39414
« A conversion of my life was to stop asking myself: "What does it take for me to be happy?" but: "How can I be in joy, here and now?" p.40 »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39415
« "It's not complicated": this expression is not an invitation to resignation, to give up. On the contrary, this friend so serene is always in the real, to take action to get better. Naturally, I find a new asceticism. Don't complicate things. Don't add anything when the difficulties arise. Without denying them, it is a question of returning to reality, of seeing that the imaginary, like a horse, gets carried away and makes the situation worse. "It's not complicated" is finally back to the immediate, to the real. What's going on? What do I have in front of me to take action and calm the mind? p.35 and 36 »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39416
« I suddenly realized that my body was like a child to be protected, to cherish. Before, I tended to pull the rope, to seek to get from him all the pleasures possible, but never to be in rest, respect for what he brings me on a daily basis. In this station, I realized that the handicap and the wounds he had left me were like being placed on a tray that I would wear. The image of my body was on a tray, and I was just wearing it. Finally, when someone laughs at what's on the set, that's not my problem. My problem, my task, my work, is to wear the stage with kindness. That we laugh at the sight of what's on it, that's not the point. So, at the same time, I realized that I could feed an unconditional look on the body and my being, and that what I "present in the window", what is visible, what is obvious is not necessarily all me. p.28 »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39417
« Sometimes when you listen to the friend who is in trouble, who does not get away with it, who flows, who cries, the immediate temptation, and it is an instinct of life, is to take action, to find solutions. And when there are no solutions? Well the friend in good, when I try to represent him, it is wide open arms that welcome the other as he is and nurtures for him unconditional love. He unconditionally likes: "I love you without you needing to do anything." p.23 and 24 »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39418
« I think that suffering, sadness have their place in us. They may last precisely because we do not dare to live them to the fullest. What strikes me when I watch the children is that when they cry, they cry, and their sadness goes away. Perhaps there are childhood injuries that could not be fully experienced, and for that reason remain. p.17 »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39419
« We didn't complicate our lives, you know.... She did it for us! »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39420
« I like the idea that calm comes when we have stopped all struggle and any attempt to iron out what cannot be ironed out. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39421
« For me, being wise requires knowing, "doing with" your possibilities and weaknesses, managing your reality. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39422
« If I understand correctly, after your maxim: "fight against everything", you follow this other motto: "If you want to get away in a hostile environment, be cunning!" »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39423
« I leave fatigue, happiness, projects, regrets, expectations. Everything has to go away, everything. And to think that we are made to believe that renunciation is sad. Would we rather curl up, shrivel up on ourselves? Often, misfortune means that one suffers, one withdraws into oneself, one freezes, one tenses and one suffers even more. How do you twist your neck to this tough reflex? »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39424
« With great importance, we have moved away from the joy, peace and love that remain intact in the depths. And to meditate, to be in solidarity, to practice generosity, is to go down, to dive, to forget. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39425
« Even if I believe that indeed the test can become an opportunity for progress, nothing can justify an absolute evil. »
Alexandre Jollien (Self-building: A use of philosophy)


#39426
« The one who constantly possesses the desire to progress or the dream of becoming someone else deprives himself of the sweetness of the moment. If the desire to improve is fruitful, it is akin to a flight when it is merely an excuse to refuse the present. It should be used wisely. »
Alexandre Jollien (Self-building: A use of philosophy)


#39427
« The warrior's rest is inspiring. Finding one's way of life is of considerable importance. A tired body, an ever-tense soul can quickly send us into the flames of hell »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39428
« Get to the bottom of it, start a dialogue with God, okay. Reading the squeaky atheists and the persifleurs of the faith rarely leaves unscathed How to isolate oneself in a room, pray, without imagining their sarcasm? I confess that I hear their voices too often as that of God. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39429
« There is no need to deserve God's love, it is an infinite grace. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39430
« It's not easy for anyone to live in a world where everything can be interrupted at any time. So as much as being good with the others, they are embarked on the same galley. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39431
« I don't think we should shield ourselves against the eyes that break because it would close the door to the look that loves, that blossoms. I agree to remain vulnerable so as not to anesthetize my sensitivity. »
Alexandre Jollien (Man's profession: Tracking 'Spiritual Practice')


#39432
« To become light is to humbly accept fate after trying everything to eradicate one's shadow, to assert resistance where revolt and anger prevail, is to refuse that rage or hatred alienate freedom. To be light is therefore to use with force joy against what is sour, against what isolates, to support the one who suffers so that he does not slam into his ill-being. »
Alexandre Jollien (Man's profession: Tracking 'Spiritual Practice')


#39433
« "The misunderstanding vaguely dispelled, I rejoice in the news; my days are not numbered. The senseless weight of this dissipated infant anguish, the painful misunderstanding ceases its torture." »
Alexandre Jollien (The Man's Job)


#39434
« I like this return to the body. It is pleasant, when the mind wanders, to get back on the ground to reintegrate the real. In all places, I can decline the exercise: metro station, supermarket checkout, everywhere I return to the body, to sensations, I try to draw resources in the act of living the present. Everything happens as if you had to learn to savour, to appreciate what the moment provides (this bite of bread, this glass of syrup), while a natural slope almost always takes me elsewhere. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39435
« When you're sitting, just sit down. When you're up, stand up. When you walk, walk. And above all do not hesitate (Zen Master Yunmen) »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39436
« I like this image of the desert, evocation of the inner desert that we sometimes have to cross to reach the source, to peace, to peaceful cohabitation with all the demons of the past that gnaw at us (p.90) »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39437
« Joy would in my eyes proceed more from the act of receiving than to conquer (p.73) »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39438
« For me prayer is to present yourself naked to God, without artifice (p.65) »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39439
« Sometimes when things go wrong, you want to change everything in your life, change your look, swallow your façade, change your appearance, get a new look. While determination is perseverance. I keep moving forward no matter what I progress, as I am. What matters is to take this step, just this one. Tomorrow we'll see. Yesterday is a thing of the past. (p. 58) »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39440
« By dint of wanting to amass we deprive themselves of what gives life (p.47) »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39441
« To love someone is to love them for what they are in their uniqueness. There is no need to compare it with canons of beauty but simply and perhaps this is what the practice of Zen teaches me, to let reality be fully what it is without bringing it back to our ideals. As another friend in the good said: "to judge reality is to want to occupy the throne of God and the place is already taken" (p. 41 and 42) »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39442
« Zen master Harada gave a wonderful instruction to begin meditation: "Sit down and don't sit better. You'd want to sit better. If you don't like the way you sit, accept it and live it that way." »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39443
« Freeing yourself from the past [...]. To free ourselves from all that we have done, "without erasing the slate" or to reduce ourselves to our actions. because we don't just do what we've done or what we've been. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39444
« I am not proud to be a person with a disability, but I am proud of the experiences it brings me. »
Alexandre Jollien (Self-building: A use of philosophy)


#39445
« Welcome everything that appears on the plate with a largesse of heart and spirit. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39446
« There is a time for everything and everything under the sky has its time. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39447
« God gives everyone what is best for everyone and suits them. To carve a garment that would belong to someone, it must be done to their own measure; a garment that would go to someone would not go to the other at all. Everyone receives according to what is best for him, what he, who knows, recognizes for the most suitable. (Master ECKHART) »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39448
« Let life be what it is; Without judging her, without why, without regret. Right there. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39449
« One woman once told me that the daily hassle was finally the rent of existence. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39450
« I just read an advertisement about self-assertion. Can I really be taught to assert myself? Often misunderstood, this attitude is reduced to a ferocious arrogance that sends everything fart. How can we claim to be free even when we are only reacting, than positioning ourselves in relation to others, or against him? Opposing, asserting oneself, is not a posture of exile, of one who does not yet live in himself? »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39451
« The real only disappoints the one who expects too much from him. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39452
« This is what I am passionate about in passion, our inability to live free. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39453
« My master entrusted me with an exercise: to meditate on the gospel passage of the calmed storm: Jesus sleeps in peace in a restless boat that takes on water. Everyday life is this boat and I have to be abandoned even in the squall. Rest in action. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39454
« Caution and vigilance would already recommend delaying the time of action, to question what is really good. Blinded, the enthusiast is able, against his own interest (many examples attest), to shoot himself in the foot. How, next time, can I attempt resistance or inaction without obeying the harmful desires that manifest themselves in me? I remember how Seneca evokes the way Galien advised a master, unhappy to have beaten his slave. He'd say to her, "Next time, think, "I'm going to beat him tomorrow." Let's bet that in the morning, the intemperant no longer wanted to give a beating to his servant! So, in the face of the violence of passion, cunning, deferring and - why not? - practice the art of detour, on the condition that emotion does not prevail. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39455
« What helps me is the practice of one hour of meditation a day. During this hour, I watch the ideas pass as they present themselves to my mind without refusing or clinging to any of them. It's kind of like a passing train. I'll let it go. There are cars that are hyperbruyant, I let them pass. Cars of anguish, which I let pass without a problem. There are cars loaded with rabid foxes, cars of multiple sclerosis, multiple cars of road accidents, cancer, leukemia, etc. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39456
« When I watched my little Celeste giggle on the changing table this morning, she was all smiles. She was watching her toes and fingers, I had before my eyes the spectacle of total joy and incredible availability. She didn't ask, "Why am I here?" She wasn't looking good in front of her dad. She was there, being changed, laughing and open to life. I imagined myself for two minutes in his place, lying on his back with my paws in the air. I would inevitably have asked myself a thousand questions. I would have asked myself, "When is this going to end, I'm going to catch cold?" , "What am I going to do all day?" »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39457
« By dint of wanting to amass, we deprive ourselves of what life gives. A tramp who is not a tramp, a disabled man who is not undugly, a life that is not a life and a strip that is not a stripping - that's why I call him stripping - that's the way! »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39458
« To free yourself, you have to know you're a slave! »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39459
« Epictète was already saying that it is not reality that disturbs us, but the opinion we have of it. Desires, fears, prejudices, projections keep carrying me away. But I'm still starting to question the inner cinema in which I'm complacent. What a job to take off one by one the labels affixed to the real! Progress is like offloading here. Again, there is nothing to add, just to remove what prevents you from being and loving. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39460
« Joy frees, will it lead me to detachment? »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39461
« Spirit born in a body shaken with spasm, the "vegetable" thinks. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Man's Job)


#39462
« When my neighbour appears only as depressed, when others disappear under the label of diabetic, widower, or black, the reduction to work in many eyes weighs, bruises personality and opens secret wounds. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Man's Job)


#39463
« This conception of philosophy as therapeutic of the soul, fortunately ambitious, seduces me. »
Alexandre Jollien (Self-building: A use of philosophy)


#39464
« The algodicee is first and foremost the demanding hope that the ordeal that overwhelms me will not destroy me. I must resist him, to pursue at all costs the exercise of my freedom, not to let myself be defeated in order to preserve my joy as an indispensable weapon. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Man's Job)


#39465
« Right now, one thing matters: to saturate myself with joy, to find it everywhere, in the game with my children, in a reading, in the encounter. It alone can distract me for a time from my obsession and the cruel lack it engenders. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39466
« Thus philosophy was born from man's astonishment at the world. Overcoming the "it-going without saying" and the clichés of everyday life, this is the philosopher's own. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39467
« When one agrees to fight with the everyday, one inevitably ends up stripping, the essential requiring a kind of asceticism of every moment. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Man's Job)


#39468
« The reflection on normality haunts me to the point of passion. It assures me many torments, many injuries. At first I was burning to be like everyone else. I would have given everything to finally become normal. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Man's Job)


#39469
« What most people perceive is the strangeness of the gestures, the slowness of the words, the disturbing approach. What's behind it, they don't know. Spasms, rictus, loss of balance, they hide behind a clear and sharp judgment, without appeal: here is a moron. It's hard to change that first impression, painful to be reduced »
Alexandre Jollien (The Man's Job)


#39470
« Very quickly, I had the intuition that by fleeing disability, one isolates itself. He is there, we must welcome him as a fifth member, to deal with him. To do this, the knowledge of its weaknesses seems to me to be paramount. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39471
« I was once taught that "understanding" in the Hebrew sense of the word meant "tasting" "to experience". Knowledge, in Hebrew culture, diverges from a certain intellectualism, a legacy of the Greek world that you know much better than I do. For Jews, to know each other is to immerse yourself in one's own history to give it meaning, meaning, experiment. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39472
« There is an obligatory addiction: I depend on my baker, my milkman; I depend on the one who ties me my shoes, as well as my teacher who teaches philosophy. This allows everyone to find their place while aiming for the collective interest. Our society is thus organized with its sharing of stains. But psychological or emotional dependence appears quite different. It generates tension. The fear of losing, the fear of hurting, the fear of being repelled by the friend, or rather by the one on whom I depend, is actually a dangerous poison. He uses the other, reduces it to the rank of means to fill a void, means to fill my loneliness. We cling to each other to escape ourselves »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39473
« There's no point in talking, about hours of suffering. We must find ways to eliminate it and, if we cannot, accept it, give it meaning »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39474
« The difference disturbs, decontaminated man in his concern for perfection. As for fear, it shrinks it. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39475
« The gaze of others, in my opinion, builds, structures our personality. However, it can also harm, condemn,hurt »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39476
« yes, our existence was both unusual, agonizing and beautiful. The look and gesture lessened the isolation. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39477
« If you want to know who the good philosopher is, put them all online, whoever laughs is the right one. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39478
« I still cannot convince myself that actions must be repressed. If there is a need for restraint, however, I think that the social convention that dictates it comes primarily from a fear, a discomfort with the body, in the face of the other »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39479
« You can't imagine the damage caused by the absence of the parents. Moreover, the feeling that educators care for us rather that they love us does not help ... This emptiness felt from my early youth still makes me suffer today »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39480
« So I set out to use words, to provoke laughter among my dear comrades. Very quickly, to the general astonishment, I made myself a place among them. Oddly enough, my authentic friends were not among the first in class, nor among the docile, but among the last, the unruly, those who sneer "all behind", those who know how to be cruel. These very people showed me a tenderness, an innocence, a love that I never found anywhere else. The way they helped me, the way they came into contact with me, was a form of nudity. It was not the pity of the old women who gave me a hundred cents (which I did not always dislike), nor the ostentatious altruism of the son to Dad who demonstrate his good education, his know-how. The cockroach's friendship was clumsy, discreet, sincere. He confided in me and I dared to turn myself in to him. I always remember that rebellious spirit to whom I addressed my usual greeting: "Be wise." One day, he answered me to point: "And you, walk straight!" It gave me extreme pleasure. He felt for myself and had not taken the tweezers that take those who smile blissfully at me when, at the checkout, I bread my packet of herbal spaguettis. There are smiles that hurt, compliments that kill. SOCRATES All this would mean that pitity hurts more than contempt? ALEXANDRE Yes, no piti. Once again, I agree with Nietzsche. I think he sees right when he condemns pity, hypocrisy or appearance. Every day I encounter this condescending look that grows to please me, perhaps sincerely, but which denies my freedom and nies me ipso facto. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39481
« ALEXANDER [...] I still cannot convince myself that actions must be repressed. If there is a need for restraint, I think that the social convention that dictates it comes primarily from a fear, a discomfort with the body, in the face of the other. Even today, I still remember a gesture that was too friendly towards a teacher. Driven by an instinct, a desire to spontaneously prove my affection by shaking his hand, tapping his shoulder, ... I feel that such actions may be unwelcome or even prohibited in certain situations. SOCRATE And your new method? ALEXANDRE All these events made me realize that I belonged to an "other world". Therefore, it was necessary to do everything possible to integrate, to learn the language of this world, its codes and its prohibitions. I began by observing. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39482
« You will depend less on the next day when you get your hands on today. While we differ it, life runs. ... Seneca in Lucilius »
Alexandre Jollien (Self-building: A use of philosophy)


#39483
« Suffering does not grow, it is what is done that can grow the individual. No need to suffer to flourish, no need to know isolation to appreciate the presence of the other. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Man's Job)


#39484
« The art of standing up, of staying the course, precisely implies a happier horizon towards which to move. What undermines this progress is not suffering, nor failure, but despair. To cease to hope is to admit defeat without even taking on the challenge, is to render each of our efforts in vain. The formation of personality requires, as a singular starting point, a radical stripping: to know vulnerable, perfectible, perfectible, to become aware of evolving in uncertain lands, to try to know why one is fighting... joyfulmebnt. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Man's Job)


#39485
« I always remember that rebellious spirit to whom I addressed my usual greeting: "be wise". One day, he answered me with a point of point: "And you, walk straight!" It gave me extreme pleasure. He felt for myself and had not taken the tweezers that take those who smile blithely at me.... There are smiles that hurt, compliments that kill. »
Alexandre Jollien


#39486
« Alexander: Socrace? Socrates: Himself. Alexander: Hi to Socrates. Socrates: Hi to ... What do you want from me? »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39487
« "Alexander is not Alexander, that is why I call him Alexander": I never fix myself in who I am; I'm moving on. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39488
« Many of my educators were religious. Some did not always respect the teachings they taught. In philosophy, this kind of inconsistency is called "cognitive dissonance," that is, dissociation between our ideal, our will and our actions. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39489
« The slang vocabulary was totally unknown to me. So I remember when a friend told me that he was "smoking the carpet," I wondered what world I had landed in. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39490
« Is it malice to outwit the supervisor's vigilance to go and drink water? »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39491
« I can't write by hand. so I dictated this text to a computer that transcribed my word, hence a style sometimes close to the spoken language. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39492
« Followed by many readings, an encounter taught me the unsuspected value of a new fight. (...) For the first time I realized that the mind (or soul, as one would like) deserves some attention. As a teenager, I guessed with the old man the charms of philosophy (...). From then on, two men often watched by the light of a studious lamp. The discussions were rolling, the arguments were sharpening. I was arming myself for life. The worn eyes opened those of the young man, the ears that the outrage of time had blocked listened without complacency to the confused rumors of a heart swollen with incomprehension. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Man's Job)


#39493
« The fear of losing, the fear of hurting, the fear of being repelled by the friend, or rather by the one on whom I depend, is indeed a dangerous poison. He uses the other, reduces it to the rank of means to fill a void, a way to fill my loneliness. One clings, crawls towards the other to escape oneself. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39494
« I think contempt is tonic, as Balzac said... On the other hand, pity, by its blandness, anesthesia. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39495
« Oddly enough, my authentic friends were not among the first in class, nor among the docile, but among the last, the unruly, those who sneer "all behind", those who know how to be cruel. Those of the same people showed me a tenderness, an innocence, a love that I never found anywhere else. The way they helped me, the way they came into contact with me, was a form of nudity. It was not the pity of the old women who gave me a hundred cents (which I did not always dislike), nor the ostentatious altruism of the son to Dad who demonstrates his good education, his know-how to live. The cockroach's friendship was clumsy, discreet, sincere. He confided in me and I dared to turn myself in to him »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39496
« What increases suffering, and creates lack, is comparison. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39497
« "It's not complicated." A friend of mine has a habit of repeating this phrase that soothes me and teaches me for a long time. I see him serene in the midst of the greatest mess, in a thousand difficulties, always calm and peaceful. "It's not complicated": this expression is not an invitation to resignation, to give up. On the contrary, this friend so serene is always in the real, to take action to get better. I certainly find a new asceticism. Don't complicate things. Don't add anything when the difficulties arise. Without denying them, it is a question of returning to reality, of seeing that the imaginary, like a horse, gets carried away and makes the situation worse. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39498
« I realized one day that the self is programmed to refuse. It is therefore more a question of "letting up" than of accepting. Accepting is still work for me. "You have to accept": this imperative requires work. The phrase of the Diamond Soutra that I quoted keeps coming up in the words of the Buddha, and could be summed up as follows: "The Buddha is not the Buddha, that is why I call him the Buddha." It's a non-fixing exercise. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39499
« If this book could in turn hatch a few vocations, invite the reader to enter into himself and discover his deep aspirations and his true quest, it would contribute joyfully to make sense of the sometimes painful episodes that mark this modest dialogue, a small manual of progressing that guides joy. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39500
« On a spiritual road, there is more to clear than to amass. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39501
« Silence is both empty and full, like the bottom of the soul. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39502
« Hyecheon, if you base your identity on gossip, rumors and what will be said, you are not done suffering! »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39503
« Don't eat at all the rakes! Deepen true friendships and experience loneliness! »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39504
« Why would you want to fill the void, run away from nothing? »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39505
« In this fight against fear, realize that this is only a mental storm. Rather than resist, downright sink. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39506
« Laughing is not running away from reality. It is to plunge body and soul into full existence. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39507
« Meeting the other is to rest a little of oneself. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39508
« I realized that my body was like a child to be protected, to cherish. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39509
« [T]he fateful leap: losing our conditioning one by one, dying every day to ourselves and giving us ever more intensely. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39510
« "I was advised to take models, to follow patterns, never to go deep into me to find a source, even at the most formidable level: in my anguish." »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39511
« Zazen is sitting meditation: za means "sitting" in Japanese. Personally, I practice lying down, because I can't keep myself in a suit. One day I met a disciple of Deshimaru, and when I told her I was doing zazen lying down, she was offended. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39512
« It is by giving life a little bit of confidence every day that confidence is gradually discovered. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39513
« To be in the stripping is to be totally oneself, totally naked to let out this joy that is already present in us, which precedes us. You don't have to go and get her, seduce her to come. She's already here. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39514
« I realized one day that the self is programmed to refuse So it is more about "letting be" than accepting. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39515
« I think that suffering, sadness have their place in us. They may last precisely because we do not dare to live them to the fullest. What strikes me when I watch the children is when they cry, they cry, and their sadness goes away. Perhaps there are childhood injuries that could not be fully experienced, and for that reason remain. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39516
« To be true, to strip me of the masks, to dare to abandon rather than fight, is what guides me in the journey of existence, where we can never settle down »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39517
« Never forget that it is my frailties that are the source of my fertility. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39518
« Obsession cuts off joy, reduces the world, and for my part, turns me into a slave. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39519
« Fascination, projections, prejudices, that's what blinds you. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39520
« The meeting is the place of passions, comparison, attraction and possession, fascination, fear and anger, shame and jealousy. But above all love, emulation, friendship and ... joy. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39521
« The joy comes from an accession which, to its supreme degree, accepts the imperfection of the world. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39522
« In the trial, then, in the face of tug-of-war, pierce the fog and find the rays of joy, in an encounter, in the laughter of a child, with the friend. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39523
« To detach myself from sad passions, to gradually reduce addictions, I want and must glean the joy where she gives herself, to remain in the sun. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39524
« So I have to look ahead to leave a little this need to possess, to amass to abandon myself, even a spiritual baggage! »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39525
« Between "I am as I am and after me the flood!" and "When we want, we can!" there is a possible ridge path. Tonight, the impulses, the sorrows, the fascinations I read, remind me that I belong to the human race, that I am not so different from others. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39526
« You will depend less on the next day when you get your hands on today. (Seneca) »
Alexandre Jollien (Self-building: A use of philosophy)


#39527
« In the common search for arguments, the one who is defeated to earn more in proportion to what he has just learned. (Epicure) »
Alexandre Jollien (Self-building: A use of philosophy)


#39528
« If sometimes you perceive the real as dangerous, foolish only takes it at your eyes, it is he who colors the events. So stop saying existence is sad, but rather "I feel at the moment, sadness. »
Alexandre Jollien (Self-building: A use of philosophy)


#39529
« Joy remains the cash of happiness, it helps it fully savoring it to ensure the inevitable dissatisfactions. But the man struggles to feel it thoroughly, and living half he spoils his joy by thinking of misfortune »
Alexandre Jollien (Self-building: A use of philosophy)


#39530
« It is by limiting one's desires to direct them towards reality that we enjoy them best »
Alexandre Jollien (Self-building: A use of philosophy)


#39531
« He who constantly possesses the desire to progress or the dream of becoming someone else, deprives himself of the sweetness of the moment. If the will to improve is fruitful; it is akin to a flight when it is merely an excuse to refuse the present. It should be used wisely. »
Alexandre Jollien (Self-building: A use of philosophy)


#39532
« The temptation is great to multiply the prowess to display a generosity of pageantry. True love doesn't demand anything. He relishes joy in the very act of giving. To love freely is to rejoice. Love is a joy accompanied by the idea of an external cause. »
Alexandre Jollien (Self-building: A use of philosophy)


#39533
« The spirit of simplicity goes without luggage and relaxes naturally. The parade, the roles, the masks leave him effortlessly. There is nothing, nothing more to prove. »
Alexandre Jollien (Self-building: A use of philosophy)


#39534
« In my opinion, true self-knowledge is akin to a form of simplicity of naivety, perhaps. Above all, it is a question of keeping intact an innocence, a transparency, of becoming aware of its strengths and without comparing itself, dealing with them. »
Alexandre Jollien (Self-building: A use of philosophy)


#39535
« Everything makes sense. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39536
« Opposing, asserting oneself, is not a posture of exile, of one who does not yet live in himself? »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39537
« Floating or sinking are the detachment's responsibility. Go to the bottom of the torment to inhabit it and make sense of it... »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39538
« When I walk, I walk... without my mind wandering elsewhere, without me getting lost in vain musings that cut me off from the present world. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39539
« Accept that we may never heal from our deficiencies or wounds, assume that the blows of the past can haunt a soul to open us to the gifts of the day and, why not, share them. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39540
« Several quotations: "One is not born man, one becomes one" (Erasme, Selected works) "Far from saddening him, the struggle to deliver without truce and unexpectedly dispenses an authentic joy that I invariably found with the comrades who surrounded me. Supporting the morale of this singular troupe, the jubilation crowned and turned into triumph all progress, all success, even the most insignificant. "Later, when I read Nietzsche, I discovered the same thirst, the same desire. The philosopher who invites the eternal surpassing of oneself instructs me: to save my skin, every step is to invent. Getting started is what the unbearable precariousness of my being demands. "Pascal, following Aristotle, thinks that behind every act of man is the voluntary search for happiness. Present behind the slap as behind the caress, it animates every man and constitutes the goal of all actions. "One pride inhabits me: to be a man with equal rights and duties, to share the same condition, his sufferings, his joys, his demands. This pride brings us all together, the deaf as well as the lame. The Ethiopian as the hare beak, the Jew as the cul-de-sac, the blind as the Down's syndrome, the Muslim as the homeless, you like me. We are men! "The profession of man, a fatal way of life that everyone practices on a daily basis, often without knowing it, therefore there are many resources, a constant ingenuity deployed to make life a victory, to assume its condition. "Let's say it again!" Suffering does not grow, it is what is done that can grow the individual. No need to suffer to flourish, no need to know isolation to appreciate the presence of the other" "Joy always announces that life has succeeded, that it has gained ground, that it has won a victory: all great joy has a triumphal accent" "When one agrees to fight with the everyday, one inevitably ends up stripping, the essential requiring a kind of asceticism of every moment. "Friendship, a privileged relationship with others, is, among the essential tools, certainly the sweetest. Salt of life for Aristotle, it provides comfort in adversity." »
Alexandre Jollien (Man's profession: Tracking 'Spiritual Practice')


#39541
« The difference disturbs, deconstrucance of man in his concern for perfection. As for fear, it shrinks it. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39542
« Not everything is given... Everything is received »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39543
« I realize that being a Buddhist or a Christian is extremely demanding. You can never shout victory and settle down. It's always about getting started, moving forward. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39544
« Zen teaches me that no gesture is banal. Anything can lead to union with God. »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39545
« The definition of wisdom is often questioned. [...] I don't know much about this concept of wisdom. I will argue, however, that for me, being wise requires knowing, "doing with" your possibilities and weaknesses, managing your reality. To achieve this requires a long apprenticeship. [...] "Accepting, it requires rigorous work on oneself that [...] goes far beyond analytical introspection. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39546
« My inability to achieve perfect autonomy shows me daily the greatness of man. At the heart of my weakness, I can therefore appreciate the gift of the presence of the other and in my turn, I try with my means to offer them my humble and fragile presence. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39547
« Often, in the evening, lost in my thoughts, I envied the fate of the other children: they slept at home, shared pleasant moments with family. As for me, I stood there, alone, unseeed, unseeed. (...) [E]n face, Jerome with deep eyes, who was watching me attentively. Once he threw me, with his voice off, in a superhuman effort one: "Aa bva?" The thought that Jerome, paralyzed at the bottom of his bed, was worried about my tiny worries still upsets me today. He had not lectured me on courage, on the need to think positive (...) but with simple words: "Aa bva?" he had said everything. His support was total. There is a growing tendency to exclude the different, the useless, the foreign, the other... Jerome couldn't do anything physically. After assessing its possibilities, it was readily described as "unprofitable". Yet he taught me, better than anyone else, the hard "man's job". »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39548
« My body was like a child to be protected, to cherish. »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39549
« A lot of happiness to read this book by these beautiful lessons of love, life ... Book to read and open from time to time not to forget and for the days of gloom to celebrate life! »
Alexandre Jollien (Living without why)


#39550
« ALEXANDER [...] I still cannot convince myself that actions must be repressed. If there is a need for restraint, I think that the social convention that dictates it comes primarily from a fear, a discomfort with the body, in the face of the other. Even today, I still remember a gesture that was too friendly towards a teacher. Driven by an instinct, a desire to spontaneously prove my affection by shaking his hand, tapping his shoulder, ... I feel that such actions may be unwelcome or even prohibited in certain situations. SOCRATE And your new method? ALEXANDRE All these events made me realize that I belonged to an "other world". Therefore, it was necessary to do everything possible to integrate, to learn the language of this world, its codes and its prohibitions. I began by observing. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39551
« SOCRATE Tell me a little about the educators who helped you, the ones you like! I will have a more complete, more neutral opinion. THEY loved us. They trusted us, we had our possibilities. Without pretending to control everything, aware that many elements eluded them, they were modest. More pragmatic than the others, they did not reduce reality to vain schemes, futile theories. They acted like philosophers, letting themselves be led by reality, trying to understand us simply, but as best as possible. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39552
« You can't imagine the damage caused by the absence of the parents. Moreover, the feeling that educators care for us rather that they love us does not help ... This emptiness felt from my youth still makes me suffer today. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39553
« What could be crazier than the tyranny of desires? This morning, at the pharmacy, my eyes cross an advertisement for an extraordinary ointment against the horns on the feet. Wonderful example of inadequate desires. It's all about the ability to provoke the desire for something completely useless: at the time, I thought, "Damn, I don't have horns on my feet!" »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39554
« Certainly, I did not choose my existence, nor my body for that matter. I have not totally decided to love Corine or my children, but I can choose to be tender with them, to dare a "agree" »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39555
« The adversities encountered thus constitute a breeding ground on which existence is built. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Man's Job)


#39556
« Really, you owe a lot to madness. It still unites lovers and pushes them to the brides. »
Alexandre Jollien (Self-building: A use of philosophy)


#39557
« We run our whole life after the bowl of our dreams. »
Alexandre Jollien (Self-building: A use of philosophy)


#39558
« I entered philosophy to get away from prejudice. »
Alexandre Jollien (Self-building: A use of philosophy)


#39559
« I have tried to make positive use of the spiritual tools that your disciples bring to leave out school conflicts. »
Alexandre Jollien (Self-building: A use of philosophy)


#39560
« If disability was the door open to reflection, I now wish, without denying it, to cross it, to go further. »
Alexandre Jollien (Self-building: A use of philosophy)


#39561
« For the Christian, prayer comes first and foremost from a meeting. An encounter with Christ, with Jesus. And what I like about Jesus' journey, if I dare say, if one looks at his life on a human view, is that there is failure, except for his total adherence to life. The cross, for me, is the zero degree of hope. Jesus missed everything at the time of the cross. Everything failed. Yet for the believer, for the Christian, this is where life begins. She gains ground, or rather, she wins at the same time as she loses. It is the zero degree of human life, there is no more hope, and yet this zero degree becomes the place of salvation. Often, in prayer, I think of that. When I'm really in desolation, when there's nothing left to do, I dare to give up altogether." p.67 »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39562
« The theme of this book is motor disability. How can you be happy on a daily basis despite the disability? How to tame it? »
Alexandre Jollien (Small Treatise on Abandonment: Thoughts to Welcome Life as It Proposes)


#39563
« Over the course of this diary, I discover a new difficulty: to assume the ups and downs of existence. Never linear progression, never definitive progress. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39564
« I console, encourage, give a thousand and one advice and yet my heart is in pieces. Singular contradictions! Listening to the praise, I couldn't help but look at my cell phone to see if Z had written to me. And to think that I had just dissertation on the detachment! Would I be an impostor? »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39565
« Tonight, one thing is certain: passion plays me with sacred tricks and I want to progress to a little detachment, this distant land to which I aspire. For passions are my own, and the soul. E when they hold me, I can say: "Goodbye prudence!" Anger, sadness, fear, envy, jealousy, nothing that is human is foreign to me. »
Alexandre Jollien (The Naked Philosopher)


#39566
« The centre was full of anomalies: me, chewing my words and staggering cheerfully; Philip, who, at the age of eighteen, was less than a metre tall; Jérome, who could not walk or speak, and Adrien, who suffered from mental retardation and uttered sounds almost impossible to decipher. Nothing united us, yet everything brought us together. Together, we could better tolerate the intolerable of our situation »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39567
« I think contempt is toned said Balzac.... On the other hand pity by its coldness, anesthesia »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39568
« no one is mean voluntarily and know yourself »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39569
« Although I'm the first to find the latest novelty, I hardly read the books I own. »
Alexandre Jollien (Self-building: A use of philosophy)


#39570
« The gaze of others, in my opinion, builds, structures our personality. However, it can also harm, condemn, hurt. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


#39571
« Aristotle talks about the degrees of friendship. At the top of the ladder, he places the friendship that unites two equal people. The two friends must enrich each other without exploiting each other. »
Alexandre Jollien (Praise for weakness)


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